My child’s preschool teacher let me know my daughter is being left out by other children during certain activities. I’m worried she’ll have trouble making friends going forward. How should I handle this situation? Or should I let the teacher take care of it?
The fact that your teacher notified you of the issue shows that your daughter is in good hands and the situation is being monitored, but there are some things you can do outside school to help her along, according to Katie Novak Ed.D., author of
Let Them Thrive: A Playbook for Helping Your Child Succeed in School and in Life.
Dr. Novak suggests talking to your daughter about preschool so you can find out if she’s being purposefully excluded or is just shy. “Ask her about her day and who she likes to play with, and find out what activities she likes to do at preschool and whether she likes to play by herself or with other kids,” she says.
If it is a question of being excluded, you can make a plan to address it with her teacher. Otherwise, it’s possible your daughter is more withdrawn and reluctant to ask to be involved with other children at times. That’s perfectly normal for kids her age, and it’s possible that she’ll become more extroverted over time.
Until then, you can try enrolling her in extracurricular activities such as art classes or sports teams to get her used to participating and to develop social skills, says Philpott-Sanders. Or, consider planning some one-onone play dates with some of the other class parents and their kids. That way she can get to know her classmates better in a more familiar and comfortable setting, and she can seek you out if she needs comforting.