THE ART OF THE PIVOT

Ex­pert ad­vice that’ll help you nav­i­gate change with grace.

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MAYBE YOU’RE ITCH­ING TO SHAKE THINGS UP by sim­ply chang­ing your eat­ing habits or trav­el­ing more. Or maybe your need for rein­ven­tion runs deeper, and you’re con­sid­er­ing quit­ting your day job to be­come a full-time yoga teacher or launch a new busi­ness. What­ever changes you’re look­ing to make in your life, there’s a way to go about it so that it un­folds as smoothly as pos­si­ble, says Budig. “Trans­for­ma­tion can be tough,” she says. “But with in­ten­tion, you can let the process serve you as much as the end re­sult.”

Here, Budig and her best friend, life coach Ash Ce­bulka, share their tips for nav­i­gat­ing big change with courage and grace.

Lis­ten to what re­ally ex­cites you. No mat­ter what part of the trans­for­ma­tion process you’re in—whether you’re in the be­gin­ning stages of dream­ing big or do­ing the hard work of ac­tu­ally mak­ing big changes—keep com­ing back to this ques­tion: What lights me up? What fires me up to get out of bed in the morn­ing? “If you just fo­cus on be­ing suc­cess­ful, it’s not go­ing to bring hap­pi­ness,” says Budig. Un­der­stand that back­lash may be part of the process.

While you may be su­per-psyched for the changes hap­pen­ing in your life, not ev­ery­one in your world may be as stoked. “We live in a so­ci­ety that loves vanilla,” she says. “When you switch it up, some peo­ple are go­ing to love it—and some peo­ple are go­ing to be pissed off be­cause they want their vanilla ice cream cone.” And that’s OK, Budig adds. “Peo­ple come and go. I’ve learned that it’s the at­tach­ment to peo­ple lov­ing you that’s go­ing to hold you down.”

Amp up your self-care prac­tices. No mat­ter how crazy life feels as a re­sult of all of the changes you’re mak­ing, a con­sis­tent self-care rou­tine is key, says Ce­bulka. “Tak­ing time to slow down helps you lis­ten to your in­tu­ition and prompts you to ask your­self what you need and want,” she says. “If you’re able to do this, you’ll be bet­ter able to trust your­self— which will come in handy dur­ing a time that can be filled with self-doubt.” Em­brace self-doubt and fear that may crop up.

All too of­ten, those of us go­ing through a big trans­for­ma­tion only want to talk about the amaz­ing parts—and skirt past the darker sides, says Ce­bulka. “In the spir­i­tual well­ness sec­tor, it’s all about be­ing fear­less,” she says. “We’re of­ten told to move past our doubts and not to pay at­ten­tion to our fear.” Yet lean­ing into these emo­tions is part of the process. “Fear is just try­ing to keep us in our com­fort zone,” says Ce­bulka. “Un­der­neath it is an un­met need that should be tended to. Ask your­self what the need is, and within five sec­onds, do some­thing ac­tion­able to move your­self past fear and closer to your de­sire.” Know that some of your friends won’t get it. Even though you may be ex­cited about the big shifts hap­pen­ing in your life, oth­ers might get a lit­tle un­com­fort­able when they see you mak­ing changes—and that’s OK, says Ce­bulka. “Try to see that oth­ers’ dis­com­fort ac­tu­ally has noth­ing to do with you,” she says. “You can’t shrink back to match some­one else’s fear when you’re stand­ing proudly in your power.” So, try to in­spire oth­ers to rise to your vi­bra­tion, rather than get­ting mired in the way they process your evo­lu­tion. Sur­round your­self with your most sup­port­ive friends. For Budig, that meant peo­ple who didn’t care how much money she was mak­ing or what kind of yoga pose she could get into for a photo opp. “When you’re go­ing through a tran­si­tion, it’s cru­cial to reach out to the peo­ple who sup­port you no mat­ter what,” she says. Maybe it’s the yo­gis in your com­mu­nity who lift you up; or per­haps you reach out to an old friend or two. The bot­tom line, says Budig: “Con­nect with the peo­ple who help you feel sup­ported, be­cause at the end of the day, all any of us re­ally want—es­pe­cially when we’re go­ing through a big change—is to feel un­der­stood.”

Don’t take your­self too se­ri­ously. When you’re tak­ing what feel like big risks, it can be tempt­ing to get re­ally solemn about ev­ery­thing and lose your sense of hu­mor when things don’t go your way. “A sense of play­ful­ness will make ev­ery­thing— both your suc­cesses and fail­ures—feel more ex­pan­sive,” says Ce­bulka. “It’ll make it so that you won’t be so at­tached to the re­sults.” Not only will this make ev­ery­thing feel lighter and more fun, but there’s a good chance you’ll be more open to any num­ber of out­comes and op­por­tu­ni­ties, rather than get­ting stuck on the one you were af­ter at the start. MEGHAN RABBITT

Budig with best friend and life coach, Ash Ce­bulka.

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