40 years on…Peter, Sithem­biso keep fire burn­ing

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THE heart had no choice but to flut­ter and melt while they cut their wed­ding cake – baked 40 years ago — as Mthande by Musa fea­tur­ing Rob­bie Malinga height­ened the al­ready ro­man­tic am­bi­ence.

They fed each other pieces of cake and with it ex­changed an in­ti­mate kiss af­ter which they per­son­ally moved around with cake trays to share with their guests who had come to help cel­e­brate their 40th wed­ding an­niver­sary.

On the day, they were just Peter and Sithem­biso and not Min­is­ter of Small to Medium En­ter­prises and Co-op­er­a­tive De­vel­op­ment and the Rev­erend.

They held hands; hugged and kissed count­less times as they cel­e­brated a love they have shared and cher­ished among friends and fam­ily at Busters Sports Club in Bu­l­awayo at the week­end.

Af­ter so many years of mar­riage — through the val­leys and the storms, the sunny days and rain­bow mo­ments — their love and hap­pi­ness re­mains in­fec­tious.

One looks at them and can’t help but smile at them­selves and think, “I want this too”, be­cause 40 years later — they’re still happy and glow­ing.

As the sun set, Peter took the love of his life by her hand, gen­tly placed his hands around her waist as they slowly danced to the rhythm of Ed Sheeran’s Think­ing Out Loud in what would be­come their “first” dance. Soon, other cou­ples be­gan join­ing them on the dance floor and saw it as the per­fect op­por­tu­nity to steal a kiss, stare into their lover’s eyes and re­mind them just how much they are loved and ap­pre­ci­ated. The aura was cap­ti­vat­ing, love per­me­ated the air as they danced the night away. But, in a world where peo­ple can no longer sus­tain ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ships let alone mar­riages for long, Min­is­ter Ny­oni and her hus­band had a few notes to share. “We’ve been to­gether for so long be­cause we’ve put God first. We’ve put val­ues first. We’ve made talk­ing to each other and not al­low­ing grudges and the past to ruin the present and the fu­ture a pri­or­ity. The se­cret is re­ally talk­ing to each other and not let any­thing rust — deal with it while it’s still fresh,” said Min­is­ter Ny­oni. She said al­though mar­riage is a two way street and both par­ties have to play their part — a lot rests on the shoul­ders of the man. “To be hon­est, we’ve been very happy. Ev­ery­thing de­pends on the man. The Bi­ble says the man must love his wife. Women don’t want to sub­mit to cru­elty. When the man is lov­ing — even when he’s not pro­vid­ing — the woman will sub­mit. Women sub­mit to love. They don’t sub­mit to ma­te­rial things; they’re some peo­ple who’ve di­vorced leav­ing wealth be­hind,” said Min­is­ter Ny­oni. Rush­ing and co­erc­ing some­one into a mar­riage is never a good idea, she said. “I want to en­cour­age young peo­ple to pray Again Mas­ter & the Boys The Sun will Rise about their mar­riages and to wait. God has a plan for all of us. Let’s not hurry. Some­times we get into mar­riages through clan­des­tine ways — try­ing to trick the other per­son to marry you. It doesn’t work, it has to be gen­uine love and God has to bless that mar­riage,” said Min­is­ter Ny­oni.

Shar­ing some pearls of wis­dom, Rev­erend Ny­oni said God has been at the cen­tre of their mar­riage.

“It’s about know­ing and un­der­stand­ing each other. You have to be­lieve in each other. Our mar­riage is Chris­tian based — we’ve tried to fol­low the pre­cepts of Chris­tian teach­ings and that’s what dis­tin­guishes Chris­tian mar­riages from other mar­riages. It’s not a con­tract for us — it’s a mar­riage un­der Christ and we al­ways turn to Him for in­spi­ra­tion and guid­ance. We’ve found that it’s ad­e­quate for us; it’s never let us down. As a re­sult, we re­spect and trust each other. There’re no rear rules be­tween us,” said Rev­erend Ny­oni.

He said the mar­riage has been bliss­ful so much that it doesn’t feel like they got mar­ried 40 years ago.

“If you’re un­der Christ, you’re ma­ture, and re­spect her judg­ment — you won’t go wrong. We don’t see the 40 years; it feels like just yes­ter­day that we got mar­ried. The chil­dren have been mas­sively sup­port­ive — they’ve put this to­gether for us. They just asked us for a guest list and or­gan­ised ev­ery­thing,” said Rev­erend Ny­oni.

The re­cep­tion, which was pre­ceded by a closed fam­ily gath­er­ing at their home where the love birds re­newed their mar­riage vows, was or­gan­ised by the cou­ple’s chil­dren.

“We’re very grate­ful to our chil­dren, their cousins and some of their friends for do­ing this for us. We’re very touched — we didn’t even have to con­trib­ute a cent. We only just had to show up.”

Min­is­ter Ny­oni and her hus­band have four chil­dren and three grand­chil­dren. They met in 1976 in the United King­dom while they were at univer­sity.

Artistes per­form­ing and stu­dent watch­ing the play at Bu­l­awayo Theatre

Peter and Sithem­biso Ny­oni at their 40th wed­ding an­nivesary cer­e­mony


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