winning traits you need to know
Yin and yang are complementary (rather than opposing) forces that interact to form a dynamic system in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts. Hence you can see that success can’t exist without failure! And failure can’t exist without success. Winning can’t exist without losing. Is this starting to make a lot more sense to you now? Winners/successful people all have a clear understanding of this. They know that failure is not permanent; it’s a temporary glitch in their life cycle. I will share a little personal story; I have competed in over 100 bodybuilding events in my life. Yes I started competing at the age of 13 as a teenager. Did I win every show? No way. I got placed or often did not even make the top 3 in many shows I entered. However, I learned more from the shows I lost than the ones I won! Why? Because I took the time to analyze and review why I win or place. Where is the times I won, I just ended up basking in the glory and didn’t think about anything else. I feel sad for many competitors these days because they struggle with failure. When they don’t win, it kills them mentally. Why, because they don’t understand dual- ity in life. Success and failure are one, and one can’t exist without the other. Just like night and day, hot and cold, positive and negative. Instead many choose the blame game, ohh it must have been the judges, or politics or some other obscure reason created in their mind. This is extremely sad because this type of mindset never truly realizes success, and will always be tormented and never at peace. So the first step in unleashing the winners mind set is accepting the duality of life. Success and failure are not permanent, you will win some, lose some. But more importantly you learn from it all and move forward. And on the topic of moving forward lets jump to the next important trait.
Letting go, and not being so sensitive!
We live in a v ery touchy world, people are so sensitiv e. In fact it’s hard to say anything without someone taking it the wrong way and getting offended. Unfortunately social media has fueled this fire. First off, and this is extremely raymond importantlim if you want to develop yourself as a person and a successful one at that. LET GO of wanting continual approval - and stop being so damn sensitive. You will never be able to please everyone so stop trying, not everyone is going to like or agree with your lifestyle. One of the most mythical words of the digital generation is “Haters” get this clear, just because someone does not like something does not mean they hate it. In the perfect world everyone would like everything, but the world is not perfect and never will be. People are not perfect, so it’s time to let go and stop being so sensitive. Time to move on, chill out and let go.
Stop following, become the authentic you
Jump back throught history and take a look at one of the most common traits of successful people. They never followed, they were unique, creative individuals that lived their life as they wanted not through others or to blend or fit in to a current trend. People involved in the Fitness Industry are some of the worst abusers of following without thinking. I guess much of this habit is created by social media, it’s founded on “following” so we are brainwashed into following oothers or trends. A classic example, millions of novice gym goers around the world mindlessly picking heavy weights up off the ground and banging them onto the floor – otherwise known as deadlifts! The same applies to squats, now squatting is no doubt a great exercise but when performed with weights that are beyond the realms of what one can lift it is a highly dangerous movement for both the back and knees. But hey, who care because it’s the thing to do! Posting PB’s (Personal Bests) while squatting down with a 2 inch range of movement is hardly a PB, or smashing you butt into a weight bench behind you. Let’s put all of this into perspective, doing dangerous movements just to fit in. That’s all it is. Plain and simple. It does not matter if the movements are totally counterproductive to the goal at hand as most people performing them are competing in events judged on aesthetics not strength! So what’s the point in putting yourself at risk. I find it mind boggling that this “follow me” mentality is not only limited to younger generations. Many of the old school trainers have fallen victim to the herd mentality. A number of times I posted warnings on social media about doing this sort of stuff and some of the very people that probably read my posts continued and ended up tearing hamstrings, doing their backs, knees, hips. Wow ,
the price some people pay to supposedly fit in! Time to become the authentic you, someone that thinks before they follow. The you that does not follow the herd, someone that is truly unique, creative. Learn a lesson from the leagues of successful people in the past and present, they are all successful because they choose not to follow, they choose to be different. They are true to themselves and authentic.
Learn to appreciate, give gratitude
Sadly enough appreciation for this new generation has now become entitlement. Someone does something nice for someone or goes out of their way and the receiver does not pay thanks as they feel entitled! How bizarre is that. I see this happen all the time, in fact I experience it firsthand. I personally spend countless hours promoting athletes in my own time, which I don’t really need to do. I do it because I can’t change my nature, I am inherently a giving, generous person. Do I get thanks for it? Sometimes, but most times it never happens. Photography is a good example, I could spend an hour editing a photo of someone to make it pop and look really impressive. I obviously add my photo by “Steve Jones” as a credit just as all photographers do. Then I find someone has chopped the credit and reposted on social media with no reference to me being the photographer. This happens numerous times, I have learned to lower my expectations so it does not bother me, but in principle it’s always nice to be acknowledged for your work. It’s kind of funny because those that do this love to get thousands of likes on the photo but offer no credit to the creator of the image! Strange. Social media is full of people that over value their own time or product and under value everyone elses! Successful people do NOT think this way full stop. It’s disrespectful and ultimately those that act this way never succeed. Then there are those that always have a sob story, nobody has helped them, they play the victim cards all the time. They keep reminding everyone they are a self made success! That statement alone defies logic and all laws of physics and nature. Let’s be honest nobody makes it on their own. A successful business needs customers, a contract manufacturer, marketing team and so on. It’s a team effort. The “I did it all on my own” mentality shows all the signs of a megalomaniac. Google that one. People with this mindset probably don’t even thank their mum and dad! Appreciation costs nothing to give; it’s an acknowledgement and proves to the world that you have not become a victim to your own ego. This is just one example, but the message is learn to appreciate everything you have in life at this current moment in time, because you never know when it could be taken away. Appreciate your partner, your friends, family, house, car, all your possessions. Appreciation and gratitude are common traits for most of the successful people that I have had the pleasure of meeting. Despite their level of success they are always appreciative and show gratitude to those that have helped them along their life journey.
Intention sets direction
Do you know what you really want out of life and where you are going? How many times have you got up in the morning and just thought this is going to be a great day, and low and behold it was a great day! Why? Because you intended it to be. Everything starts with intention, if your intentions are positive and good 95% of the time the outcome will be good. If you get up in the morning and say, oh today is going to be miserable because the weather is lousy what do you think the outcome with be? Not great. You can easily harness the power of good intention anytime you desire. It’s your inner super power that will make your life a whole lot more rewarding and happier. Start when you get up in the morning, set your intentions. Say to yourself “today is going to be an awesome day, I am going to get so much from this day”. Before you head to the gym, set your intention to have the best most intense workout in your life. If you are a Fitness Competitor set your intentions the morning of the show to have fun on stage, be confident and enjoy the moment. Remember intention determines direction and outcome. In fact this very method forms the foundation on most of the fancy pants self help programs that many folk pay thousands of dollars for! Even religion utilizes a similar concept, its called prayer! Honestly this is a true super power that all successful people use on a day to day basis and now you can use it to super charge your life. It makes such a big difference, as positive intention sets your inner personal success compass that guides your ship. Why not jump aboard and make your life a voyage of happiness, self development and ongoing success. I hope this short article has provided some insight into the traits of successful people, this is part one of a series of articles I will present on winning, success and self development.