Lawn­mower mums cut out ad­ver­sity

Chinchilla News - - FAMILY LIFE -

FOR­GET he­li­copter par­ents. Lawn­mower mums are the new gen­er­a­tion of pushy par­ents, and they could be do­ing more harm than good.

The term was coined by the We Are Teach­ers blog, and is de­fined as “par­ents that go to what­ever lengths nec­es­sary to pre­vent their child from hav­ing to face ad­ver­sity, strug­gle, or fail­ure”. They are de­scribed as: “In­stead of pre­par­ing chil­dren for chal­lenges, they mow ob­sta­cles down so kids won’t ex­pe­ri­ence them in the first place.”

One teacher moaned about a par­ent who needed some­thing ur­gently picked up for their child. The teacher was happy to help, but was left gob­s­macked when the dad passed over an in­su­lated wa­ter bot­tle – which his daugh­ter “needed” asap.

The teacher warned lawn­mower par­ents could cre­ate a gen­er­a­tion of kids who can’t deal with fail­ure, turn­ing them to ad­dic­tion, blame and in­ter­nal­i­sa­tion.

Stephanie Sa­mar, a clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist at the Mood Disor­ders Cen­ter of the Child Mind In­sti­tute, said: “When par­ents are re­mov­ing ob­sta­cles for their child they are re­ally tak­ing away that op­por­tu­nity for kids to learn those prob­lem-solv­ing tech­niques.”

PHOTO: VGAJIC

NOT HELP­ING: Lawn­mower par­ents plough through and “fix” the prob­lem be­fore it’s even been raised.

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