Alex Na­tion, 26, won Richie Stra­han’s heart on The Bach­e­lor. While the cou­ple later split, Alex has since found love with her fi­ancée Mae­gan Luxa, 31

Cosmopolitan (Australia) - - Celebrity -

When did you know you had met some­one spe­cial? Alex: I knew there was some­thing spe­cial about Maegs the mo­ment I met her. But it was a con­fus­ing time for me. I thought, She’s my friend, but why do I care about and think of her so of­ten? Maegs ac­cepts me for who I am. I’m just to­tally in love with her! Mae­gan: I knew straight away. It was in­stant and felt like an elec­tric shock.

Alex, how did you cope with com­ing out in a same-sex re­la­tion­ship so pub­licly? I’ve al­ways be­lieved in be­ing true to your­self. It was nowhere near as chal­leng­ing as com­ing out and be­ing hon­est with my­self. But I care more about my­self than I do strangers who think they know me by what they’ve seen in the me­dia. Peo­ple ask, ‘Are you gay now?’ And I say, ‘No, I’m just Alex!’ I think I’ve al­ways been pan­sex­ual; all my re­la­tion­ships have been about the con­nec­tion.

What about your very pub­lic break-up? Break-ups are hard to go through pri­vately, let alone in front of the whole coun­try. My time with Richie will al­ways be spe­cial. It taught me a lot; I’ll cher­ish the me­mories.

What’s the worst thing some­one has said about your re­la­tion­ship?

The worst is: ‘It’s fake, it’s for pub­lic­ity.’ That grinds my gears. Why would I put my­self through that? My life can be com­pli­cated enough as it is!

How do you deal with haters? I just feel so bloody sorry for them. I’m not hurt­ing any­body; all I’ve ever done is spread pos­i­tiv­ity and love. Those peo­ple re­ally need a hug.

How did you guys feel to find out Aus­tralia said ‘yes’? We were over the moon, for ev­ery­one, for Aus­tralia as a whole. It’s a huge mile­stone for this coun­try.

What would you say to any young woman cur­rently ex­plor­ing her sex­u­al­ity? Do just that – ex­plore it. Get to know your­self emo­tion­ally and sex­u­ally; it’s em­pow­er­ing.

What are your hopes and dreams for the LGTBQI com­mu­nity in Aus­tralia? It’s taken me a while to re­ally cel­e­brate my own sex­ual iden­tity. I’ve now taken it upon my­self to be­come the best damn gay I can be. My hopes for the com­mu­nity in Aus­tralia are sim­i­lar; I hope we can con­tinue to grow and sup­port each other out­side the bounds of la­bels; to be proud of our com­mu­nity, but also as in­di­vid­u­als.

How does it feel to be called a role model?

It’s hum­bling. Hear­ing from our LGBTQI fam­ily is a priv­i­lege. Whether peo­ple are ask­ing me for ad­vice or seek­ing sup­port, I am al­ways happy to lis­ten. I learn some­thing from ev­ery mem­ber of our com­mu­nity and it’s an hon­our to be able to share their ex­pe­ri­ences.

Do you have a mes­sage for any young LGTBQI per­son read­ing this? Your sex­ual iden­tity doesn’t have to de­fine who you are or what you say; your sex­u­al­ity is sim­ply one part of the gi­ant, beau­ti­ful, com­plex puz­zle that makes up your whole self. You should cel­e­brate ev­ery­thing about you, and also know that there is a com­mu­nity of weirdos out there who love all of you for you!

What is the best in­spi­ra­tional mes­sage you’ve ever been given and who was it from?

‘Shoot for the moon; if you miss, you’ll die in outer space, which is cool.’ My favourite per­son in the whole world, Katya Petro­vna Zamolod­chikova (from RuPaul’s Drag Race) told me that.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from Australia

© PressReader. All rights reserved.