Bachelor in Paradise special: Ask Davey and Apollo anything
Our fave reality lotharios are back and looking for a second chance at love. Now they’re here to help you – yes you– with all your love questions
After missing out on winning the hearts of Australia’s most beloved Bachelorettes (we’re looking at you, Sam Frost and Sophie Monk!), Apollo Jackson and Davey Lloyd have certainly had their fair share of dating high and lows, which makes them the perfect pair to answer all your love dramas and dating dilemmas. Take it away, boys…
Q. I’m going on a first date with a guy I’ve been chatting to on Tinder for weeks and he wants me to plan it – what should I do? Davey It’s Tinder, so it’s going to be a little awkward. Take the pressure off, ditch dinner and plan something fun that will break the ice, like an amusement park date or bowling. I’d be really impressed if a girl did that.
Apollo I think it’s a really bold move for the guy to ask the girl to plan the first date. I think first dates need to be fun, old school and lighthearted. I would definitely be putting the ball back in his court afterwards and make him plan date number two.
Q. I’ve been texting a guy I like, but sometimes he takes hours or a whole day to get back to me. Does this mean he’s just not into me?
Apollo It really depends on the guy. I’m shocking at replying, that’s my Achilles heel when it comes to relationships, but that’s because I’ll be off writing music and playing guitar for eight hours and then remember I got a message from someone and never wrote back. It depends what his excuse for not replying is. If he’s been sitting at the beach all day, not doing much and hasn’t replied, then that’s not great, but if he’s a busy dude and can’t use his phone at work, then maybe he’ll take a few hours to reply and that’s fine.
Davey I always have my phone on me at work so I do reply quite quickly. I don’t believe in playing games or the whole ‘Treat them mean, keep them keen,’ thing. I think if you’re keen on them then just be nice and go for it.
Q. Should I get my boyfriend a present for our six-month anniversary? If so, what?
Apollo It can’t be a six month anniversary because anniversaries are a year thing. Davey I totally agree with that!
Q. I’ve been on so many bad dates lately that I need some ‘get out of this date quick’ excuses. Any suggestions?
Apollo In my younger years, I didn’t have the best luck dating, so I’ve heard plenty of them (laughs). There are some that are more believable than others. I’ve had: ‘My friend is really sick and I’ve got to help her;’ ‘My parents need the car’ – that one’s actually believable – ‘I’ve got to be up early.’
Davey You want honesty. If I was on a date and the girl genuinely said, ‘Look, I’m just not feeling it,’ that’s better than sitting there after the date waiting to hear back from her, wondering what I’ve done wrong.
Apollo Can I change my answer to that? I agree that honesty is good. Otherwise, sometimes you can get caught in your lie. Once, while on a date, a girl said to me that her friend’s boyfriend locked her out and she had to go pick her up. I offered to go with her and help but she said no. When I didn’t hear from her the next day I was worried, so I messaged but didn’t hear anything back. I saw her a few days later in a park with another guy and quickly realised there was no friend in need…
Q. I’m about to meet my boyfriend’s parents for first time. Any tips to make them love me?
Davey Don’t be intimidated and nervous. I know that’s hard to do but if your boyfriend sees you being open and wanting to spend time with the family, then he’ll love that. I know I would. Apollo I totally agree with Davey. If you’re trying to be someone else and make them like you, that’s not going to work – they want to see who their son is falling in love with. Be interested – even if the dad has a really boring job, ask him about it and listen.