Honest answers to your most private questions
Q. Can I really get arrested for having sex in public?
A. Yup, but public sexcapades can be blurry territory. There are no laws that specifically make reference to sexy time in public, but there are a number of other laws which can be applied towards adventurous love makers. If you’re wilfully exposing your genitals in public, you will likely cop a fine, and worst case scenario – jail time. Even if your genitals are not exposed, sex in public could also be seen as offensive behaviour and therefore a different type of offence. So, while doing it where you might be seen is sexy in theory, it’s risky in reality.
Q. Could I get pregnant from having sex without a condom while I have my period?
A. If you’re truly menstruating (as in, the lining of your uterus is shedding around two weeks after you ovulate), then no, says obgyn, Lauren Streicher, MD, medical director of the Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause at Northwestern Memorial Hospital, in Chicago. That said, when many women see blood, they assume ‘period’, even though it could be irregular bleeding or spotting midcycle – both instances in which sperm could infiltrate one of your eggs. To avoid le bébé, wrap it up at all times.
Q. I heard weed is an aphrodisiac. True?
A. The jury’s still out. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual
Medicine found that frequent pot smokers have about 20 percent more sex than nonsmokers. And while certain strains of marijuana and weedlaced lubes are purported to heighten desire, it has yet to be proven. ‘We know that cannabis works on the brain and impacts neurotransmitters, which may, in turn, impact libido,’ says Dr. Streicher. ‘So it’s not out of the realm of scientific reason.’
Q. I love a suction vibe, but unfortunately they often leave me feeling so sensitive. What’s a gentler option?
A. For many women, nipples are erogenous zones. Give your lady lumps some love and get your hands on a pair of nipple suckers. They’re designed to draw blood to the area causing greater sensitivity and an extra tingly sensation, which means increased arousal. If you’re a beginner, start off by applying gentle suction, then work your way up. Add a quality waterbased lubricant to help the suckers stick and for the suction to last longer. (Check out our fave, right).
Q. Any thoughts about a great way to turn myself on... that’s not porn? A. Although some 20 percent of millennials incorporate porn into their sex lives, according to a 2017 Skyn Condoms survey, you can also be the director of your own steamy scenes. Simply script intimate scenarios in your mind, as if you’re writing an erotic story, suggests sex educator Sari Locker, PhD, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Amazing Sex. Think of a titillating build up, climax, and conclusion, then fill in the Rrated details as you go. We’ll help you get started: You’re sitting pretty on a tropical beach, when a sexy stranger walks over with two mai tais...
Q. What’s the best (and most fun!) position for a quickie with my guy?
A. When you don’t have a ton of time, try the upright doggie position, says Locker. While standing and holding or leaning onto a piece of furniture (a bedpost, kitchen counter, bathroom sink – even a wall if you’re desperate!), bend over and have your partner enter you from behind. You’ll feel them super deep inside and get some serious Gspot stimulation, but you’ll also have a hand free to rub your clitoris (a notable perk, since the majority of women need this type of action to actually have an orgasm).
Q. When I masturbate, I fantasise about other women, but I’m straight! What’s going on?
A. ‘It’s natural to have erotic thoughts about any type of person,’ Locker. ‘The partners you choose to be with in real life may be different from the people who pop up into your fantasies.’ Most people have had arousing thoughts about being with various genders, regardless of how they identify sexually. Your mind’s just exploring – there’s no need to overanalyse.
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