HOW TO COPE WITH LOS­ING A LOVED ONE

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Ev­ery­one says ‘time’s a healer,’ but grief can last a life­time and there’s no right way to grieve, just ways that may help you cope. ‘It helps to ex­press our feel­ings,’ says Lianna Champ, au­thor of How to Grieve Like a Champ. ‘Find some­one who will lis­ten with­out telling you what to do, or how you should be feel­ing.’

As for los­ing a loved one, it’s nor­mal to feel an­gry. ‘Be­ing con­fronted with death when you’re form­ing your per­spec­tives on life is breath­tak­ingly hard,’ says Char­lene Neuhoff, se­nior psy­chol­o­gist and mind­ful­ness prac­ti­tioner at The Indigo Project. ‘We spend a large chunk of our lives learn­ing how to en­dure suf­fer­ing in an hon­ourable way. Los­ing a par­ent so young forces you to start this work early.’

If you know some­one who’s lost a loved one, it’s im­por­tant to recog­nise grief isn’t mea­sur­able. ‘Peo­ple often feel the need to stop talk­ing about their loss af­ter the one to two-year mark,’ says Neuhoff. ‘This de­layed iso­la­tion can be painful. Let them know they can talk to you at any time, even if it’s years down the track.’

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