GET COM­FORT­ABLE WITH BE­ING UN­COM­FORT­ABLE

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THE IDEA: Be the domino. WHO: Luvvie Ajayi – a writer and ac­tivist who calls her­self a ‘pro­fes­sional shade thrower’, and whose fans in­clude Bono and Shonda Rhimes.

WHAT? Ajayi be­lieves trou­ble­mak­ers make real change – just by stat­ing the con­tro­ver­sial opin­ion. She talks about times when she’s said some­thing she as­sumed would be un­pop­u­lar (like crit­i­cis­ing a well­known au­thor), only to re­alise oth­ers not only felt the same way, but were thank­ful she’d started the con­ver­sa­tion.

QUOTE: ‘For a line of domi­noes to fall, one has to fall first, which then leaves the oth­ers choice­less to do the same.’

AP­PLY IT: Crit­i­cis­ing an idea or process that ev­ery­one else seems OK with may not seem like it’s worth the trou­ble, but of­ten, oth­ers are feel­ing the same way. In these in­stances, Ajayi has three ques­tions she asks her­self. ‘One: Do you mean it? Two: Can you de­fend it? Three: Are you say­ing it with love? If you an­swer yes to all three, I say it and let the chips fall.’

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