Ask him anything
Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
Q. I love hanging out with my gorgeous gay mate, but I always wonder if other men assume we’re a couple. And if so, how do I correct this?
A. Yep, some will think you’re dating. To clear up any possible misunderstanding, you could wear a flashing LED sign around your neck that reads, ‘Don’t worry! He’s gay, and I am single and ready to mingle!’ Or you can simply hang out with your best friend like nobody is watching. It’s 2018. Women and men who are straight, gay or otherwise can be friends. And if you bump into a hot straight guy when you’re with your friend, you can always drop a superclear hint like ‘Can I buy you a drink?’
Q. What’s a romcom that most men secretly love? There has to be one!
A. As long as there’s more comedy than romance, we actually like lots of them, like The 40-Year-Old Virgin or 50 First Dates. My surefire recommendation? On your next date night, tell your guy you want to watch The Big Sick, a 2017 flick starring Kumail Nanjiani and Zoe Kazan. It’s an instant comedy classic. Of course, it’s a romantic hit too, but he doesn’t need to know that beforehand.
Q. Why are guys so afraid of talking on the phone?
A. Most aren’t! They are just lazy and think it’s easier to text. That way, they can chat with you without having to leave the noisy bar they’re in or miss part of the game they’re watching. But for some, there are nerves involved. Once a guy gets used
Q. My fiancé told me he dreamt that he called off our wedding, and now I’m freaking out. Is that what he wants?
A. Don’t worry, as the Notorious B.I.G. rapped,
‘It was all a dream.’ The stress of planning a wedding is probably making him feel anxious, which can manifest in his subconscious. But anxiety does not equal confusion about his feeling for or commitment to you. If it helps, ask him where he thinks the reverie came from, and tell him how it made you feel. to editing himself and keeping conversations simple via text, it can feel riskier to be on the phone. Some worry they’ll come off stupid. To get a phoneshy guy to call, make it easy by texting a casual request with a short time limit: ‘Hey, do you have 10 minutes to catch up on the phone?’
Q. What do most males think about during sex?
A. Speaking for myself and the friends I asked, I can say: not much! I suppose we’re just feeling too good to actively think about much of anything. Some thoughts that may spontaneously pop up: How’d I get so lucky? Does she like that? Does she like this? Do I like that? Is she about to orgasm? Am I?
Beyond that, the only time we purposefully have a coherent thought is when we’re trying not to climax: Think of sports, think of nothing, don’t come yet, don’t come yet, don’t come yet…
You get the idea.
Q. I accidentally farted infront of my hook-up buddy and I am totally mortified! Do I crawl into a hole somewhere?
A. It’s not a huge deal, but smelling your stinky toots isn’t exactly a turnon for most guys. (Wouldn’t you be a little worried if it were?) Your mate may not have liked that you let one rip in front of him, but he can’t get that upset. He knows that it could have happened to him too. After you cut the cheese, cut the tension with a quick joke – ‘Well, that’s embarrassing!’ – and then just change the subject even more quickly. #
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Hill is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan.