Ask him any­thing

Love ad­vice from our guy guru, Lo­gan Hill

Cosmopolitan (Australia) - - Contents -

Q. I love hang­ing out with my gor­geous gay mate, but I al­ways won­der if other men as­sume we’re a cou­ple. And if so, how do I cor­rect this?

A. Yep, some will think you’re dat­ing. To clear up any pos­si­ble mis­un­der­stand­ing, you could wear a flash­ing LED sign around your neck that reads, ‘Don’t worry! He’s gay, and I am sin­gle and ready to min­gle!’ Or you can sim­ply hang out with your best friend like no­body is watch­ing. It’s 2018. Women and men who are straight, gay or oth­er­wise can be friends. And if you bump into a hot straight guy when you’re with your friend, you can al­ways drop a su­per­clear hint like ‘Can I buy you a drink?’

Q. What’s a rom­com that most men se­cretly love? There has to be one!

A. As long as there’s more com­edy than ro­mance, we ac­tu­ally like lots of them, like The 40-Year-Old Vir­gin or 50 First Dates. My sure­fire rec­om­men­da­tion? On your next date night, tell your guy you want to watch The Big Sick, a 2017 flick star­ring Ku­mail Nan­jiani and Zoe Kazan. It’s an in­stant com­edy clas­sic. Of course, it’s a ro­man­tic hit too, but he doesn’t need to know that be­fore­hand.

Q. Why are guys so afraid of talk­ing on the phone?

A. Most aren’t! They are just lazy and think it’s eas­ier to text. That way, they can chat with you with­out hav­ing to leave the noisy bar they’re in or miss part of the game they’re watch­ing. But for some, there are nerves in­volved. Once a guy gets used

Q. My fi­ancé told me he dreamt that he called off our wed­ding, and now I’m freak­ing out. Is that what he wants?

A. Don’t worry, as the No­to­ri­ous B.I.G. rapped,

‘It was all a dream.’ The stress of plan­ning a wed­ding is prob­a­bly mak­ing him feel anx­ious, which can man­i­fest in his sub­con­scious. But anx­i­ety does not equal con­fu­sion about his feel­ing for or com­mit­ment to you. If it helps, ask him where he thinks the rev­erie came from, and tell him how it made you feel. to edit­ing him­self and keep­ing con­ver­sa­tions sim­ple via text, it can feel riskier to be on the phone. Some worry they’ll come off stupid. To get a phone­shy guy to call, make it easy by tex­ting a ca­sual re­quest with a short time limit: ‘Hey, do you have 10 min­utes to catch up on the phone?’

Q. What do most males think about dur­ing sex?

A. Speak­ing for my­self and the friends I asked, I can say: not much! I sup­pose we’re just feel­ing too good to ac­tively think about much of any­thing. Some thoughts that may spon­ta­neously pop up: How’d I get so lucky? Does she like that? Does she like this? Do I like that? Is she about to or­gasm? Am I?

Be­yond that, the only time we pur­pose­fully have a co­her­ent thought is when we’re try­ing not to cli­max: Think of sports, think of noth­ing, don’t come yet, don’t come yet, don’t come yet…

You get the idea.

Q. I ac­ci­den­tally farted in­front of my hook-up buddy and I am to­tally mor­ti­fied! Do I crawl into a hole some­where?

A. It’s not a huge deal, but smelling your stinky toots isn’t ex­actly a turn­on for most guys. (Wouldn’t you be a lit­tle wor­ried if it were?) Your mate may not have liked that you let one rip in front of him, but he can’t get that up­set. He knows that it could have hap­pened to him too. Af­ter you cut the cheese, cut the ten­sion with a quick joke – ‘Well, that’s em­bar­rass­ing!’ – and then just change the sub­ject even more quickly. #



Hill is a con­tribut­ing writer for Cos­mopoli­tan.

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