DEAR DIVA’S ADVICE
YOU’VE GOT BIG GAY PROBLEMS… SHE’S GOT STRAIGHT-TALKING ANSWERS!
Dear Diva,
My boyfriend wanted to film us having sex. I reluctantly agreed on the condition that he wouldn’t share it with anyone. Last week one of my friends told me that he saw the video because my boyfriend had shown it to him and some other people. I was shocked and very hurt. I am not sure how to approach my man about this. Dear Video Violated,
This is such a violation of trust. He gave you his word. Lesson learned: motherfuckers lie every day. You must get out of this relationship immediately. If there is no trust you have nothing. Don’t bother confronting him. He will just tell more fucking lies. Dear Diva,
I love to entertain friends at home but my new man is not very sociable. I had a dinner party last week and he stayed in our bedroom and didn’t interact with my guests. I was so embarrassed. What should I do? How can I help him become more social?
Dear Social Butterfly,
Bitch, please! What the fuck are you whining about? Let me explain something – your man is an introvert. You are an extrovert. We all have different likes, tastes, opinions and feelings. Don’t start nagging him about changing his behavior and being more sociable with your friends. This will drive him away. Accept him the way he is. Love him the way he is. Gas-bagging with your friends? No, the only time you need him to open his mouth is to suck your dick. Dear Diva,
I’m trying to build up my interior design business and I’m struggling to pay my bills. A friend suggested that I do some escorting on the side. I know a lot of gay men have had to do this to get through college or when they’ve moved to a new city. I am very tempted by the easy money. I need your wisdom.
Dear Who’s-Gonna-Pay-My-Rent Boy,
It’s true that a lot of our brothers in the LGBTIQ world have had to go down that path and, honey, I’m not judging them. Often these are boys who don’t have the support of family or a strong network of friends they can fall back on. But nothing in life is what it seems and don’t think for a moment that escorting is “easy”. Sure, you can rent your rump out on a hook-up app, but it’s a lot more complicated than wham-bam-thank-you-man! It’s a profession, not a hobby! You can’t build your design business while giving rim jobs to make ends meet because we live in a very small gay world. News spreads. No one is going to take you seriously as a designer once they’ve paid you to fuck them. Get a bar job, ask your friends for part-time or casual work, approach an established interior designer for sub-contracted work. You have better options than sucking cock for cash. Dear Diva,
I have taken a young man under my wing. He is a good kid and has so much talent. Everyone things I am fucking him but I am not. I just see so much potential in him and want to help him avoid some of the problems I faced as a young man. He recently started dating a guy who is bad news. He is a crystal meth addict and has a violent streak. He was also arrested for drug possession. I have told my friend to get away from him. But he is not listening. How do I get through to him?
Dear Big Brother,
You are a good friend, but you can’t tell someone how to live their life. If this young man wants to spend his time with a drug addict there is nothing you can do. He will either wake up on his own or fuck up and let this man drag him down. Next time you want to take someone under your wing and take care of them – get a puppy. Dogs have more intelligence.
Lesson learned: motherfuckers lie every day. Don’t bother confronting him. He will just tell more fucking lies.
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