MAN 2 MAN: AWARD-WINNING BJS

You know those hot sessions that make your toes curl and your eyes roll to the back of your head? Griffin Barrows shows you how.

When it comes to blowjobs, there’s “just okay”, there’s “good” and then there’s “award-winning”. You know, those hot sessions that make your toes curl and your eyes roll to the back of your head. To help take your technique to the next level, we asked the blowjob king of gay porn, Griffin Barrows, to share his hot tips on sucking cock like a pro…

DNA: Griffin, it’s a pleasure watching you go down on another man. Were you always good at giving head or was it a skill you mastered over time?

Griffin Barrows: It’s a little of both, actually. My first ever sexperience was with a fairly hung guy, and we were both surprised that I was able to swallow so much right away. Over time, I learned to better control my throat and feel out other guys’ individual turn-ons.

What specific techniques do you use to make a blowjob go from good to great?

Starting with slow moves and gentle energy is smart; you can always ramp up the energy, but bringing it back down is trickier. A slow build really works for a lot of guys and gets his precum flowing. Try feathering his goods with your fingers, then kissing his rod, then licking, then finally sucking until it’s a slurpy mess.

Listening to the sounds a guy makes when you touch certain parts (his glans, his balls, behind his balls, etc) helps you feel out his preferences. Also, if you feel a surge of blood make his meat harder, you know you’ve struck oil. Keep teasing and kissing that part.

If you have a gag reflex, slowly practicing with your toothbrush helps; it sounds like weird advice but it helped me. Slowly push it to the back of your tongue and focus on not gagging. Just go easy on the practice; it’s like training your body to do the splits.

Use coconut oil for vigorous blowjobs, especially on hefty cocks. If you’re getting your throat ploughed, you’ll want lube; sometimes, especially if you’re dehydrated, you won’t have enough saliva, and commercial lube is just unhealthy and gross to swallow. Coconut melts on the skin, feels amazing on dick meat, and stays lubricated for ages to help coat your throat.

Taking control as a power bottom cocksucker can also be fun to bring into the mix. Push the top onto his back, hold him down with your knee, and then service him deep and long. Don’t let him touch his dick; make sure he knows you’re there to enjoy his meat and drain him when you’re ready.

One big tip that I use a lot, especially when snacking on a large dick, is to pull my lips over my teeth to protect the other guy’s rod. I’ve used this to great success when I hold down a hung stud and make him watch me swallow him to the hilt.

But a word of caution: do this trick only if you’re in control of the situation. If he’s pounding wildly, throat-smashing you to hell and back while you’re doing this, you could end up cutting the insides of your lips. Trust me: that’s zero fun. Again, practice makes perfect. What are some bad blowjob techniques guys should avoid?

Teeth. Slow speed, better technique, and lube will all make up for those calcium cutters in your mouth. Some guys will politely say nothing if they experience a little pain, but they won’t be coming back to you for more. If you feel like you’re rubbing teeth on his dick, you are.

I’m lucky to have a large mouth, but when I’ve been with small-mouthed guys, my advice is to play to their strengths: long and furtive tongue strokes, hungry drool play or auxiliary hand work.

Also, don’t ask, “Why aren’t you cumming?” Some bros take a while, even when experiencing great service. Adding pressure

isn’t cool, and it isn’t helpful.

How do you go from “amateur dick-licker” to “master cocksucker”?

One of the most important things I’ve learned about oral is that it’s not just about the mouth. Many times, what turns your dude into a gasping, cream-sputtering wreck is the extra stuff…

Try massaging his nipples, hole, ass cheeks or quads while you suck on him; let him know you’re hungry for more than his dick.

Messy play can be super-hot too; let the spit and throat slime build up to drench both his meat and your face; it will show him how into it you are, and let him see the effects of his tool in your eager throat.

And add more hand work to your technique. For dudes (like me) who have less sensitive dicks and need more pressure, hands are incredibly effective, especially if you can’t swallow far down. Once you’ve raised the energy and speed of your service, and his cock is well-greased with oil and spit, grab the shaft with your hand and let it follow your lips up and down, gently twisting with each stroke. When you’re at the top, let your hand stroke the glans with fresh spit from your mouth, then go back down so you can swallow him again. A lot of guys lose it when I do this, constantly slobbering on his dick head and repeatedly getting my hand on the glans ridge.

Also, use your words, not just moans. Pull your head back to talk to him honestly. Read the type of connection with your dude. If it’s an aggressive bang sesh, then, “I want you to fucking break my throat,” is acceptable. If it’s a romantic moment, taking the moment to just stroke his meat and look up at him, saying, “I love how you make me feel; I love making you feel good,” before going back down and devouring him is absolutely awesome. Be honest with him; you’re having sex, not making ’90s studio porn.

Is there anything the top can do to make the overall experience better for everyone involved?

Yes, absolutely. A lot of tops think that they should always pound hard during face-fucking, but if the bottom doesn’t have an unusually large throat, the top can accidentally graze the teeth with his meat, and that’s not the bottom’s fault. Tops should start slowly with a new bottom to measure their capabilities.

Also, tops should keep in mind that a mouth isn’t an ass; there are no thick cakes to buffer a heavy pounding once you slide all the way inside. Some dudes (even professional tops) shove their dick in to the hilt, then grind the bottom’s teeth with a pelvic bone. This can hurt or cut the bottom’s mouth on his own teeth, or even graze the top’s groin area.

You love to swallow cum; do you think it’s important to swallow a guy’s load every time you give a blowjob?

When videoing or playing with a dude for the first time, I like to see how his load gushes out.

Whether it blasts like a cannon or oozes like honey, it’s always fun to watch.

In vids I often do slurp down at least some of the cum because I like knowing people see me taste all the dudes I get to service; however, in private sex with a guy I like or have a crush on, I want all of it in me. Whether by latching onto his head as he begins to unload and drinking his juice straight from the tap, or by watching him gush onto his stomach and milking out every drop to then lick up. Yeah, I just love knowing he’s a part of me. There’s this whole other level of intimacy in it for me when I take it all. Got any advice for guys who don’t like the taste of cum?

If you don’t like it, then don’t eat it! You should never do things you aren’t comfortable with during sex, but there are plenty of ways to show your appreciation and lust. You can use his cum as lube to jerk off your own dick or smear it on your chest, hole or face.

In your acceptance speech for the Best Web Original Content Award at the Grabbys, you said you went through a difficult period in life where you were kicked out by a very conservative family. So often, the homophobia and shame inherited from our upbringing can prevent adult gay men from fully enjoying sex. Do you have any advice for gay men who may be holding back during sex due to their own experiences?

Even while living an independent life as an adult in my early twenties, I used to have a Pavlovian reflex after cumming. I’d feel guilty for no reason, even if I had simply jerked off alone, and overcoming this reaction took years of experience and reflection. I learned to conquer this obstacle by rejoicing in my sexuality: being grateful for my body’s senses, enjoying different aspects of sexuality, and cherishing the bonds and experiences I made other men. Our sexuality, individually or shared, is an amazing gift, and I recommend everyone to view it as such.