MIND­SET COR­NER

Jet Xavier

Elite Agent - - CONTENTS - Jet Xavier is one of Aus­tralia's lead­ing mind­set coaches for real es­tate sales pro­fes­sion­als. For more in­for­ma­tion visit jetx­avier.com.

Re­cently I went on a 10-day res­i­den­tial re­treat to learn an an­cient Bud­dhist med­i­ta­tion tech­nique called Vi­pas­sana. It re­quired not talk­ing for 10 days, med­i­tat­ing for 10 hours a day, fast­ing for 18 hours a day tak­ing only a lit­tle fruit oc­ca­sion­ally, and be­ing shut out from ev­ery­thing I've known in my world for the last 53 years.

I did it be­cause I wanted to dis­con­nect, re­fresh, recharge and re­new. I wanted to get out of the crazy, busy world for a while; I wanted to look within and grow more as a hu­man.

It was a bru­tal, chal­leng­ing, in­tense and gru­elling ex­pe­ri­ence, yet it was just as pro­found, en­light­en­ing and life-chang­ing.

Here are six things I learnt on this jour­ney that will bring a fresh­ness to your life in 2019.

1 PAIN PRO­DUCES DIS­CI­PLINE

Sit­ting cross-legged for up to 10 hours a day cer­tainly showed me that we must go through some sort of pain, dis­com­fort or chal­lenge to be­come the per­son we need to be and ex­pe­ri­ence the changes we want in life and busi­ness. Peo­ple want things now, with­out un­der­stand­ing that of­ten there is a cost, a sac­ri­fice, a price to pay. This process broke me, and then built me back up and made me more dis­ci­plined when I got back. Find things to do that strengthen your dis­ci­pline.

2 FO­CUS IS EV­ERY­THING

Fo­cus is the start of ev­ery­thing; it brings what we want to life. When we fo­cus on some­thing we give it pow­er­ful at­ten­tion to bring about change. The chal­lenge is when we get dis­tracted. Our fo­cus is weak, be­cause we have not con­di­tioned it or strength­ened it or learnt how to con­trol it. For five days all I did was fo­cus on the breath be­tween my up­per lip and nos­tril. Ev­ery time my mind wan­dered, I would bring my fo­cus and con­cen­tra­tion back to the breath. It con­di­tioned my fo­cus pow­ers and abil­ity to stop be­ing dis­tracted. Prac­tise do­ing things that re­quire you to to­tally fo­cus, so you con­di­tion your­self to limit dis­trac­tions and be more pro­duc­tive.

3 NOTH­ING IS PER­MA­NENT

Ev­ery­thing we have or see is im­per­ma­nent. It doesn't re­ally ex­ist on many lev­els and will one day be gone. We spend our lives striv­ing for ma­te­ri­al­ism, con­sumerism, per­fec­tion and for things that are fleet­ing – here one day and gone to­mor­row. This causes un­told stress, anx­i­ety and worry. Stop cling­ing to things for your hap­pi­ness. Let them go and stop striv­ing.

4 THE PRESENT MO­MENT IS ALL YOU HAVE

Re­spect the present mo­ment be­cause it's all you have. Most of our frus­tra­tions in life come from the fact that we tend to live in the fu­ture or the past, but not in the present. When we learn to em­brace the present mo­ment we learn to live in the mo­ment. When we live in the mo­ment we live at our best and we do our best.

5 FIND THE BREATH

The best thing you can do when you are frus­trated, stressed, wor­ried, anx­ious, chal­lenged or fear­ful is to find the breath. When you find the breath you con­nect with your life source and cen­tre your­self. This is your foun­da­tion. When your mind is busy, breathe; when you feel over­whelmed, breathe; when you need to re­fo­cus, breathe; and when you want a true con­nec­tion with your­self and what's im­por­tant, breathe. Use your breath to bal­ance your emo­tions.

6 STOP AVOID­ING AND CRAV­ING

Most of our suf­fer­ing and un­hap­pi­ness in hu­man­ity comes be­cause we avoid things that are too hard or painful, and we crave plea­sure that is never enough and fleet­ing. If we stop avoid­ing and crav­ing, and come from a place of al­low­ing and ac­cept­ing, then things change and our suf­fer­ing is min­imised. If we just al­low things to be as they are some­times and not as we want them to be, we will see that ev­ery­thing is okay and will work out fine. We need to learn to de­tach from out­comes.

WHEN WE FO­CUS ON SOME­THING WE GIVE IT POW­ER­FUL AT­TEN­TION TO BRING ABOUT CHANGE.

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