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Michelle Flowers – IM4U

Helping Professionals Escape the Emotional Captivity of Divorce

I'd been served divorce papers.

How could I move forward in my life, having been with the same person for more than 25 years? How was change possible? But I would learn that the catalyst for my change was rooted in the pain and despair I found in facing the fact that my life would never be the same again.

It all starts with forgiving yourself – as I had to. You see, getting out of my own way and taking full responsibility for my choices, and the way that I responded to what was happening to me, were the key components in my healing. The power of forgiveness is only limited by those who have not fully experienced its freedom.

They say in your darkest hour is when your real strength emerges. With a conviction to keep moving forward, I was determined to find my light – and that's when I decided to hire a coach for myself. My coach taught me that life happens for me not to me. I had no idea at the time that this decision was going to propel me onto a life-changing trajectory. My coach would often say to me, ‘Have you ever considered being a divorce coach yourself and helping women who don't know which way to turn?'

I didn't hear him. My ears were plugged because I was just worried about SURVIVING myself and couldn't care less about helping others. I wanted MY life back. Little did I know then, but he was planting the seeds for me to thrive…. not just survive. I learned how to squash the victim mentality and realised I had a story to tell that could be of value to others. Even though a story can inspire, I was way out of my comfort zone, stepping into unknown territory when I decided to become a coach myself.

But, if I was going to be a divorce coach, I wanted to learn from the six- and seven-figure earners in the industry. I hired multiple coaches, attended various events, trainings and conferences, all during the heart of the pandemic. My living room became my office and meeting hub. A word of advice here – don't ever allow your circumstances to dictate your actions.