IN THE STARS

It’s better to focus on your desire than on what’s blocking you from having it. Remember that you’re very likely to get more of whatever you focus on, so keep your eye on the prize. A self-care regimen is something that you don’t give a lot of thought to because the habits are more or less ingrained in you. Your needs are beginning to change though, so let your lifestyle lean into the shift. It would be cruel to blame yourself for the coping strategies you created when you didn’t know any better. There is not a human alive who doesn’t have some kind of maladaptive way of dealing with stress. Courage will speak to you with the vocal range of a great actor. Sometimes it’s a whisper telling you to make move, try again, speak up... and sometimes it’s a holler and a push. The reason you should give yourself credit has nothing to do with pride; rather, it’s the kindest thing you can do for those around you. When you know your worth, you don’t need others to validate you. When it gets a little weird, one option is to retreat, a natural impulse. But it’s not the best one to follow if you need a little help. You might be surprised who will step up if given the chance. Bringing people together changes things regardless of your reason for doing so. Whatever you can do to bring people together will be not only appreciated but also crucial to the alliances of the future. Don’t build, simplify. Shore up what already exists. Get rid of the excess, and you’ll be struck by the value that was there inside all along. It’s like finding a perfectly formed pearl inside a shell. It’s OK to be out of your league. It’s uncomfortable, and could even trigger a panic, but that is also OK because you’ll live and learn. The gift of a big experience is that it teaches you quickly. You might not be able to say it the way the others would like to hear it, but why should you have to? Instead of concerning yourself with their preferences, stay true to the essence of what you mean. As you operate in groups today, spread your attention. Each person has something to contribute. Don’t let yourself get so dazzled by the flashier talents that you ignore the rest. Actively seek help and a mentor will materialise – the first of many. Maybe this one won’t take you the whole way, but what’s important now is getting educated and empowered to take the next step.