The virgin diaries
We spoke to real guys and girls about how they lost their virginity – and their stories are cringey, cute and everything in between!
I had been dating my boyfriend for three months when we decided to do it. I was 18 years old and a virgin, but he’d been with other people before so I was really nervous. I organised to stay over at his place while his parents were out – but when I got there, I got my period! I couldn’t believe my bad luck. I was so embarrassed and I had to tell him I needed to go to the shops to get tampons! I thought he’d run for the hills, but he made the situation funny and came to the shops with me to cheer me up. Two weeks later, I finally felt ready to try again. I found it a bit painful and so it only lasted a few minutes, but I was kinda glad the period thing had happened (even though I wanted to die at the time) because I felt like I could totally trust him. We’ve been together a year now – and it got waaaaaay better! Savannah, 19. I’m kinda embarrassed to admit it, but I’d watched a lot of porn and honestly thought sex was this easy thing that would be good straight away. It wasn’t. I was 16 and tried to be on top straight away and it hurt a lot. We went back to kissing for a while and then used lube and tried again, and then it was actually really nice. A Fu lly ll, 1 E 7 tc . h I had been with my boyfriend for 4 months. We had talked about sex quite a bit because I wanted it to be special. We decided to do it at his house when his mum was at work. We ended up on the floor of the lounge room. I was nervous, but he was really nice and kept checking I was okay throughout the whole thing. It definitely hurt and I bled a little, but it was bearable and ended up getting really good after a few times. We used a strawberry flavoured condom, which seems silly now because I didn’t lick it! Camilla, 17. We did it for the first time at my boyfriend’s house while his parents were home, so we had to be really quiet! I was 19 and had been dating him for three months. I was so nervous and had no idea what to do. We just kissed a lot at first until I felt comfortable. We took it really slowly and it started to feel much better after a few minutes. Even though I lost my virginity much later than my friends, I didn’t want to rush. I’m glad I waited for when it felt right. Georgia, 19.
I was 18 and it was with a friend of mine. I didn’t tell her I’d never had sex before because I didn’t want her to think I was inexperienced, and most people just assume guys do it earlier than girls. I was nervous and we fumbled around in the dark with the condom for a while, before bursting into laughter and turning the lights on. Sex is so weird because it’s completely different to anything you’ve ever done before in your life, but you’re expected to just figure it out! After a little while we got into it – I’m glad my first time wasn’t with a random. Ryan, 18. She was a year older than me and she worked part-time at the local shopping centre across the road from my school. We used to talk most afternoons. We were never really ‘together’, but things escalated and one afternoon after school we decided to have sex. I bought the condoms from the chemist along with packets of lollies and sunscreen to try to cover up my purchases. We had sex in my single bed while my parents were still at work. I remember putting on music because I’d read music sets the mood. When I entered her, I said, “It’s really warm,” which seems like such a weird thing to say to her now! What can I say, I was nervous! It lasted about 60 seconds all up. I came and she didn’t. I wouldn’t necessarily say it was good because neither of us knew what we were doing and there was no real love or emotion involved. I didn’t do it again until I had an actual girlfriend. Matt, 18. It was my 16th birthday and it was in my parents’ garage on a lounge. We used a condom and it hurt for a minute, but then it was fine. It took a few more practises to feel good, and after that I started really liking it! Alice, 16. I had been with the guy for a few months, and we got the train home from a New Year’s Eve party and decided to try it. It hurt a lot and I cried, but we also laughed at the akwardness of it all. Afterwards, he told me he loved me and that sex was ‘interesting’. By the third or fourth time it was definitely more interesting – and we came up with a code word for when we wanted to leave parties to have sex! Millie, 18. It still makes me cringe thinking about it. There was a lot of awkward jerks as we tried to figure out the right angle so I could get it in, and I was so worried about hurting her that I quickly lost my boner. After a false start, we tried again and I managed to get it in, but both of us were virgins so it was awful. We just jerked up and down for a bit and then I came pretty quickly. Thankfully I got much better at it after that! Tom, 21.
Losing my virginity was a big step for me in accepting my sexuality and becoming more comfortable with myself. I had always known I was gay so I was glad I didn’t have sex with a woman ‘out of curiosity’. It was with a guy I loved and it was really special. Nathan, 19.