Think you’re the only one who’s been through this? Think again! Girlfriend reader Katie*, 17, tells us about that time when she was dating a guy she thought was gay.
“I sort of had a feeling that the guy I was dating might be gay but I was never sure. Sometimes our dates felt more like I was seeing a friend rather than a boyfriend, which really confused me.
My friends always said that he was gay and they never understood why I was bothering with him, which made me hesitant about taking the relationship further.
I never planned on asking him because I felt like it would have been an awkward conversation and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I just figured that he would’ve told me if he was. I eventually became fed up with always questioning his sexuality, so one night we were texting and I flat-out asked him. He got really defensive about it and said he wasn’t and it turned into an argument. That really changed things and we decided that it was best to go our separate ways. We talk every now and then because we have mutual friends but our relationship definitely isn’t the same as it was before. It really sucks, but I don’t regret asking him about it because at least I’m not confused anymore.”