Shaking off those gender labels.
Shaking off those gender labels
When Younger star Nico Tortorella walked the red carpet for the GLAAD Rising Stars Grants Luncheon in New York, all heads turned.
Yes, Nico is seriously smoking. Yes, he’s the star of the best TV show RN (don’t @ me on this). But it was his outfit choice that got all the attention.
The actor wore an incredible black Christian Siriano skirt and top. When quizzed about it, he explained, “This is more than a dress, this is political.” It’s political in the sense that Nico is leading the charge on the non-binary gender movement.
It’s a bit of a mouthful right? You might have heard of it instead as gender-fluid, genderqueer or third gender. But what does it mean exactly? In simple terms, it’s about taking control of your gender identity and losing the labels. For starts, ‘he/she’ is replaced with ‘they/ their’. But it’s all a bit more complex than that so we break it down…
The big difference
OK, quickie lesson on sex and gender. Sex is the biological sum of your parts: physical anatomy, hormones and your chromosomes. Gender is how you perceive yourself. In the Western world, sex and gender have generally been lumped into two options: male and masculine or female and feminine. This is called gender binary.
So what is non-binary gender?
Non-binary gender is when a person does not identify exclusively as a boy or a girl. They might feel like a mix of both. In fact, some feel they’re neither a boy nor a girl at all. Others might identify partially with one or the other. And that can change from day-to-day and year-to-year. It’s all about gender identity being fluid.
How does gender-fluid look?
Well, gender-fluidity doesn’t have a distinct look. Nico wore a skirt down the red carpet and a wedding dress for his gender-fluid ceremony to Bethany Meyers, but he also wears cute-as suits. There’s actually no single specific look. Nonbinary peeps have all types of gender presentations just like boys and girls do.
What’s next? The lesson on language
Not all, but most of those who identify as non-binary, genderfluid or the third gender are more comfortable with ‘they/ them’ instead of ‘he/she’. Such as, “This is Mickey, they’re awesome.” It might take a little time to get used to but language is always evolving and really, so should we!