The big O
We know the thought of talking about orgasms with your friends is cringeworthy. That’s what we’re here for! We give you a giggle-free explanation about what happens to your body when you climax.
You might have heard your friends talk about them at school, watched someone pretend to have one in a movie or experienced one yourself in private. Having an orgasm is totally natural and it’s part of discovering your body when you reach sexual maturity, but it can be seriously blush-worthy to talk to other people about. Most people also keep their experiences private, and there’s a lot of misconceptions about how they happen! So we’re gonna give you a DL...
Also known as coming/cumming or climaxing, an orgasm happens when the muscles inside the vagina, anus and uterus contract then release a build-up of sexual tension. In the lead-up, you might feel tingling in the genitals as blood flow to the area increases, a faster heart rate and wetness in the vagina. Your clitoris also swells during arousal. When you climax, your body releases the feel-good hormones
dopamine and oxytocin. But orgasms are different for everybody. While some people experience them during sex, other women say they only climax if they are masturbating – and that’s totally OK. Even for each individual person, orgasms can change in intensity and duration.
CUMMING & GOING
If you feel pressure to orgasm during intercourse, it likely won’t happen. Men find it a helluva lot easier to reach climax and many women rarely or never have an orgasm during sex. There are lots of different ways you can experience pleasure – with a partner or alone – so don’t put pressure on yourself. Only you can determine what is normal for you. Remember the age of consent is 16 (17 in SA and Tas) and a good sexual experience comes from being with a partner you trust and love and only doing it when you’re completely ready.
Many females only have an orgasm when they’re alone. This might happen from inserting their fingers into their vagina, but usually it comes from stimulating the clitoris. They vary in shape and size from person to person, but the clitoris is usually about the size of a pea and sits at the base of the pubic mound. It has about 8000 nerve endings so it’s super sensitive and its only function is for pleasure. A clitoral orgasm usually feels like a buildup of excitement, then it’s over with a bang.
READY OR NOT?
Remember, there’s no rush to start exploring your body, and when you do it’s meant to feel good, not stressful or awkward. So if you’re not ready to explore, then it’s all good, girl! There is absolutely no rush or expectation for you to do this at all. What happens to your body is completely your choice.