EN­COUR­AG­ING LOVED ONES TO BE AC­TIVE

Great Health Guide - - CONTENTS - Kat Mil­lar

Are you the one at the fam­ily pic­nic who en­cour­ages your loved ones to an ac­tive game or ac­tiv­ity in­stead of ly­ing around on a blan­ket? If so, I imag­ine that at least once, you wished your loved ones were more in­ter­ested in be­ing more ac­tive. There is cer­tainly a bal­ance in how to en­cour­age your loved ones to be more ac­tive while not be­ing to­tally ir­ri­tat­ing. This ar­ti­cle will pro­vide you with some im­por­tant ideas on how to en­cour­age your loved ones to be more ac­tive without push­ing them away.

1. BE THE CHANGE

When I left my cor­po­rate job, and started train­ing to be­come a personal trainer, I learned so much incredible information. I wanted to tell ev­ery­one! I wanted to shout it from the rooftops and share it with ev­ery per­son that men­tioned food or ex­er­cise - any­time, any­where. I started by telling my Dad that golf once a week was not enough ex­er­cise. Shak­ing my head at his ham and cheese on white bread sand­wiches. I wrote my Mum a train­ing pro­gram to help her with those flabby ‘bingo wings’ that she was al­ways com­plain­ing about. I tried to con­vince my non-ex­er­cis­ing sis­ter to run with me – even though she hated it.

With all this, I learned a very im­por­tant les­son that telling peo­ple they should change, wasn’t a very ef­fec­tive method. Not ev­ery­one is as pas­sion­ate about fit­ness as I’d like them to be. And that’s OK. When I stopped try­ing to change peo­ple, con­vince peo­ple and teach peo­ple to be more ac­tive, I re­alised that life was more fun - for both me and them!

Peo­ple are more likely to change from watch­ing and mim­ick­ing some­one else’s be­hav­iour, than by be­ing told. Think about how we all learned to talk and walk. We simply ob­served and copied. Mim­ick­ing be­hav­iour is hard­wired into us from when we were very lit­tle. If you live a fit lifestyle, just by spend­ing time with you and see­ing how you live, your loved ones may start to want to be­come health­ier. And if not, that’s their de­ci­sion.

2. TAKE BABY STEPS.

So, we know that by declar­ing that all so­cial gath­er­ings now will in­volve a ‘fun run’ and that ev­ery fam­ily pic­nic is go­ing to be ‘gluten-free and clean’, prob­a­bly won’t work. So, what do we do in­stead? Take baby steps. Start with com­pro­mise. Make a small sug­ges­tion to a friend or fam­ily mem­ber that per­haps ev­ery sec­ond catch up, you do a walk-and-talk in­stead of a sit-down coffee.

When it’s your birth­day (or even if it’s not), you might sug­gest that you all do some­thing ac­tive to­gether. Think rock­climb­ing, hir­ing kayaks or a na­tional park walk. When peo­ple re­alise how much fun they had, it may plant a seed for them to want to con­tinue to be more ac­tive.

If a loved one is com­plain­ing about lack of en­ergy or put­ting on weight, you could

sug­gest some fun things that you do that may help. Tell them a personal story about how your en­ergy has in­creased since you’ve been ex­er­cis­ing con­sis­tently. Of­fer to be their work­out buddy or their sup­port via text.

3. EX­ER­CISE NOT JUST YOUR BODY – BUT YOUR PA­TIENCE.

For me, it took many years from when I started ‘be­ing the change’ to start to see changes in peo­ple. It seems that when they re­alised that I was no longer watch­ing to see what they were doing (or not doing), they started to ask me ques­tions. As I changed, they changed. This is the power of be­ing the change. But it takes time.

Some peo­ple take longer than oth­ers to get a rev­e­la­tion of the im­por­tance of stay­ing healthy and fit. A lot of times, peo­ple have lay­ers of lim­it­ing be­liefs and de­ci­sions to work through. Many peo­ple who join a gym have been thinking about it for 6-12 months be­fore they ac­tu­ally make the com­mit­ment. As much as it could be tempt­ing to buy a gym mem­ber­ship for a loved one, un­less they’ve asked for it, it prob­a­bly won’t go down well. What you could do in­stead, is buy them some­thing fun like dance lessons, an ad­ven­ture ex­pe­ri­ence or even a mini tram­po­line. My cousin gave me one and I love it!

For some peo­ple, it un­for­tu­nately takes a scare, such as a health issue to fi­nally get them to act. For oth­ers, they simply need to come to their own con­clu­sion over time. So, in your quest on how to en­cour­age your loved ones to be more ac­tive, be care­ful not to ex­pect change from peo­ple. It’s their life and they get to choose how they live it. Ei­ther way, keep ex­er­cis­ing your pa­tience mus­cle and be there for them to sup­port them along their jour­ney.

Kat Mil­lar owns Get Re­sults Train­ing, ded­i­cated to help­ing peo­ple trans­form their health, mind & body. Since 2003, Kat has helped thou­sands of peo­ple achieve their goals. She’s a coach, speaker, award­win­ning fig­ure com­peti­tor, fit­ness lec­turer & NLP prac­ti­tioner. Her pas­sion helps peo­ple achieve life-chang­ing re­sults & ful­fill­ment, with a range of pro­grams for holis­tic health & body trans­for­ma­tion. Con­tact via Kat’s web­site or Face­book

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