THE BEST GIFT YOU COULD GIVE YOUR­SELF

Give your­self the best gift of LOVE

Great Health Guide - - CONTENTS - Dr Matthew An­der­son

This ar­ti­cle is about love. It is the best gift you could give your­self. If you love your­self a lot you will be able to make healthy decisions about your body, your re­la­tion­ships, your work and your life pur­pose. If your level of self-love is low, (ev­ery­one loves them­selves at least a lit­tle) then you will find it dif­fi­cult to iden­tify and act on pos­i­tive and life-giv­ing ideas and op­por­tu­ni­ties.

Lack of self-love makes it very dif­fi­cult to find the will to make pos­i­tive changes in our eat­ing, ex­er­cise, men­tal and spir­i­tual habits. For a while we might make progress and then for no clear rea­son, we lose all fo­cus and re­turn to our self­de­feat­ing habits. We com­monly blame our­selves for be­ing ‘lazy or lack­ing in will-power’ and that makes our self­love go even lower. This is a toxic cy­cle and can­not be bro­ken un­less we make progress in our abil­ity to love who and what we are. Give your­self the best gift of love and break this toxic cy­cle.

I imag­ine you may be think­ing, ‘Oh, no. I have tried to love my­self for years and I have such a hard time of it. Will I ever be

able to love who I am?’ I used to think that way so don’t de­spair. I made great progress with this is­sue and you can also. It takes a bit of work but there is no work more worth­while than learn­ing to love your­self. It ben­e­fits you and all who know you.

THE BIG QUES­TION: HOW DO I LEARN TO LOVE MY­SELF A LOT MORE THAN I DO RIGHT NOW? 1. Let’s start with the aware­ness that you al­ready love your­self at least a lit­tle bit.

I am not try­ing to use some ‘pop psy­chol­ogy’ on you. You ac­tu­ally have a part of you that al­ready loves you and will some­times as­sert it­self and guide you to do some­thing self-lov­ing – like read­ing an ar­ti­cle about in­creas­ing your self-love. If you want to make big progress in your abil­ity to love you, then you will be wise to be­lieve me on this one. You have a part of you, a ba­sic and in­de­struc­tible part, that loves who you are, no mat­ter what you have done or failed to do. There are many names for this part, both psy­cho­log­i­cal and spir­i­tual, but it does not have to be named to exist and in­flu­ence your life.

2. Nur­ture and strengthen that self lov­ing part un­til it takes over and guides your think­ing and act­ing.

Then you will ex­pe­ri­ence a heal­ing mir­a­cle in just about ev­ery as­pect of your daily life, work and re­la­tion­ships. You will be guided by a love that re­ally cares about your well-be­ing and your decisions will con­stantly re­flect that guid­ance.

HERE IS A SIM­PLE EX­ER­CISE IN IN­CREAS­ING SELF-LOVE THAT I HAVE SHARED WITH MANY OF MY CLIENTS:

Ev­ery­one wins when you love your­self much more than you do now.

Ask the fol­low­ing ques­tion as many times a day as you can re­mem­ber, then do what seems right.

• ‘If I loved my­self, what would I do right now?’

• Now act on your an­swer in a mean­ing­ful way.

• In 30 days you will be amazed!

My clients have used it to make great strides in their abil­ity to love them­selves and so can you. The ex­er­cise is de­cep­tively sim­ple and far more pow­er­ful than you may imag­ine un­til you try it for 30 days. This is the best gift you could give your­self. Go for it. You are worth the ef­fort.

Dr Matthew An­der­son has a Doc­tor of Min­istry spe­cial­is­ing in coun­selling. He has ex­ten­sive train­ing and ex­pe­ri­ence in Gestalt and Jun­gian Psy­chol­ogy and has helped many peo­ple suc­cess­fully nav­i­gate re­la­tion­ship is­sues. Dr An­der­son has a best-sell­ing book, ‘The Res­ur­rec­tion of Ro­mance’ and may be con­tacted on his Web­site.

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