HOW TO FIND SOLUTIONS IN LIFE

Learn how the quality of your self-talk impacts your life

I’m sure like me, you love finding solutions. In this place there is a sense of peace and calm. The great news is that even in the face of problems, there is a very simple way you can start finding solutions.

To explain this concept, let’s play a short game. In your room look for everything that is brown…everything that’s brown, just brown. Make a list in your mind of all the brown things. Now close your eyes and tell me everything in the room that is blue. You probably have a very short list. Why? Because you’ve been consciously looking for EVERYTHING that’s brown.

What has actually happened here? Simply, your brain is working for you and deleting everything expect for brown objects. Why? Because you asked your brain to notice only brown items and nothing else. Deletion is a coping strategy the brain uses to help you from being overwhelmed by the millions of stimuli. These include your beating pulse, the birds chirping, or the noise of the car driving by.

So, how can you use this idea in your everyday life? Admittedly, life happens where problems arise. The key is what to do next? There are several very simple steps that will help you to be someone who can find brilliant solutions and have substantial breakthroughs in your life.

These simple ideas can make all the difference between living your life in a state of frustration or calmness.

Deletion is a coping strategy the brain uses to help you from being overwhelmed by the millions of stimuli.

1. Be aware of your self-talk. The majority of your self-talk is habitual, i.e., they are learned patterns. Being more aware of your self-talk can help you to…

2. Listen to the questions you ask yourself. Start listening to the things you say to yourself. Your feelings are the result of the quality of questions you are asking yourself. If you often feel frustrated or anxious, and want to know why, then the key is to…

3. Be aware of the QUALITY of questions you ask yourself. Tony Robbins says, ‘The quality of your questions determines the quality of your life’. Good quality questions are ones that are empowering, solution focused questions. When a problem arises, some high-quality solution-focused questions could be:

• How can I learn from this?

• How can this problem change my life for the better?

• What great quality solutions can I find to move through this?

In contrast, poor quality questions do not invite solutions:

• Why do bad things always happen to me?

• Why can’t I ever get a break?

• Why are people so mean?

These questions are asking your brain to focus solely on the colour brown or the problems, instead of being open to an array of rainbow of colours that are the solutions.

What if you applied this simple tool to your life and be more aware of your selftalk and the quality of questions? Could the quality of your life and those around you change for the better? Understanding your mind is particularly important as it will help you to improve the quality of your life and flourish.

For your 30-minute complimentary private consultation, contact Kathryn today via hello@beingallyoucanbe.com.au

Kathryn Dodd is a Human Potential Consultant who enriches the growth of her clients to receive insights, discover solutions, and build strategic plans which leads to transformational results. For the past 30 years, Kathryn has led teams of people within the small business, nonprofit, corporate and government sectors. With this wealth of experience and her ongoing education, Kathryn is equipped to see people reach their maximum potential, via email or website.