AN­JALI PINTO

Harper’s Bazaar (Australia) - - Contributors -

On Newyear’s Eve in 2016, the Chicago-based pho­tog­ra­pher’s hus­band, fel­low pho­tog­ra­pher Ja­cob John­son, died sud­denly. What fol­lowed was a year of in­tense grief, but also one of self-re­flec­tion and dis­cov­ery, which Pinto doc­u­mented ev­ery day on In­sta­gram. “peo­ple com­monly equate grief with sad­ness, but grief is much more com­plex and in­di­vid­u­al­is­tic. For me, grief also in­cludes in­creased grat­i­tude for past ex­pe­ri­ences, an in­tense ap­pre­ci­a­tion to be liv­ing and a close­ness with other peo­ple fac­ing hard­ship,” she says. Pinto shares her ex­pe­ri­ences in “Theyear that Changed My Life” on page 46. My ad­vice for any­one go­ing through some­thing sim­i­lar is to … “be for­giv­ing of your­self. when my hus­band died, I lost the per­son who would re­mind me I was wor­thy of love even when I felt hor­ri­ble or acted self­ishly. It took many months to re­alise that I had to be the one to love and ac­cept my­self.” Some of the books I found help­ful to read were … “solely non­fic­tion. I loved The Light of the World by El­iz­a­beth Alexan­der, Love is a Mix Tape by Rob Sh­effield and the col­lec­tion of es­says ti­tled Mod­ern Loss.” The medium of In­sta­gram helped process my grief be­cause … “I felt I could not be silent or re­treat af­ter my hus­band died. In­sta­gram was the per­fect out­let for me to com­bine my need to write and my tal­ent for pair­ing an im­age with words. with each post, I felt more in touch with my own ex­pe­ri­ences and it less­ened my suf­fer­ing.”

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