CHRISTMAS IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER AND FOR MANY, THIS IS A VERY STRESSFUL TIME. BUT WHY?
MANY pictures of the way life should be. But pictures are simply the images we are fed about the way we expect life to be - our needs, wants, expectations and our attachements. It’s a possibly endless list but we all have pictures all-day, every-day. We may have pictures about: • Who will or will not be in the house when I get
home? • What is for dinner tonight? • When dinner will be? • What state the home will be in when I arrive
home? • What others should and should not say? • How a task should be completed? These pictures, unfortunately, are the triggers for much of our anxiety. Many people try to control life to make life according to their own pictures, however life does not always happen Smashed pictures are simply the lessons in life we are yet to self-master (ie. learn how to respond to rather than attempting to control • Who we should and should not spend
• What presents we want and/or should buy
another? • What food should be eaten? • What time people should or shouldn’t arrive/
leave? • Where are we going to be? Is it possible that all these pictures are simply creating a stressful environment for each and every person? The fact is every person has their own pictures and often these pictures are that each person is smashing other people’s pictures. day after all. But let’s look at what is happening here with just this one picture. Typically, we have discussed that major pictures of who, what, where, when why etc. and thus most have a similar understanding of what is expected to happen. Typically, we have not addressed the thousands of minor pictures that each and every person has. Often there is a multitude of smashed pictures; some minor and some appear more major and many hold the picture of ‘we must all get along’ and thus don’t express their pictures and/or smashed picture. Each smashed picture when not understood can hurt; if we don’t express this it bubbles and bubbles up inside. On the surface level there a lot of people However, below the surface there is a tension
building that one day must be released. or the days that follow, this tension is often released - often in a way that seems extreme. I have often wondered if this is...