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My daughter, 12, has started to ask me to drop her at our local shopping centre so she can hang out there and go shopping with her friends. I feel uncomfortable about this but I know I can’t keep saying ‘no’ to her. How do I know when to start to loosen the apron strings? Parenting is about raising young people to be independent, responsible, connected young adults. Our role as parents is to make our role redundant - not so we are not wanted but, eventually, not needed. Parents are required to have boundaries to support each person to grow into their independent and responsible self, however these boundaries over time will need to be expanded with an offering of increased independence. The question on most parents’ minds is when and what age do we do this? Generally speaking, this is not a decision based on age. Rather, it’s based on behaviour choices. If our young people are bought to an understanding that true respect will be earned based on their own choices, then (and only then) are we likely to expand our boundaries for them. A parent should feel that their child is likely equipped to respond to what life presents and be likely to make responsible, safe decisions in consideration and respect of all people equally. In a nutshell, the answer to ‘When do I say yes to my child’s request?’ is based more so on when they have shown you consistently that they are going to make responsible choices. I feel like I repeat myself all the time - make your bed, brush your teeth etc. How do I get through to my kids and not sound like a broken record, because it can be so tiring? Visual schedules are a great way to support our children to have an understanding of particular routines etc. It is often that we have the same jobs that we do over and over again throughout our daily, weekly, monthly