I Am Woman Global


- Author : Narelle Fleming – Slap That Bull

Jim Rohn, philosophe­r, is quoted saying that “You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”

He suggests that if you take the income of the five people you spend time with, and average it out that is how much you will always earn.

Our lives are influenced by the people around us. Most of our attitudes, worldview, beliefs, values, self-esteem, and our decisions are a reflection of the environmen­t we spend our time in.

Where you are in life right now can be attributed to who you spend time listening to. Think for a moment; who are the five people you spend time with the most, whether in person, on social media, or in any other form?

Here’s an activity for you. Write down the 5 people you spend most of your time with or listen to. Then answer these few questions…

What sort of lifestyle are they living?

How much money do they make?

What are their relationsh­ips like?

What are their attitudes like towards money, authority, and society?

What are their goals, dreams, values, and standards?

What is their health like?

Are these people positively influencin­g your life? Are they serving you in getting where you want to go and what you want to achieve?

Before I go on, when I say spending time with, I mean people who are close to you, or who you listen to or take advice and wisdom from. Who you spend time with or listen to will affect your success in life. The right people will help you achieve what you want. The wrong people will hinder you and hold you back.

You see, if you want wealth and prosperity, hanging around people on welfare will not get you thousands or millions.

If you want millions, hang out with millionair­es.

If you want a good marriage, hang out with happily married people.

If you want to raise great kids, hang out with great parents.

If you want to be fit and active, hang out with people on the move.

Now some of you might be saying, “But, I don’t know any millionair­es to hang out with or happily married people.” You don’t have to do it in person. You can spend time gleaning wisdom and knowledge from Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Brene Brown, or even God, any time you like.

You can watch their YouTube videos, listen to podcasts, attend their seminars, read their biographie­s and books, or connect with them on social media. You don’t have to be physical with a person for them to be a great influence on you.

Having the RIGHT CROWD really means finding people who have achieved what you want to achieve or people who are heading in the same direction as you and spending time learning, listening, and watching them.

The wrong crowd will ridicule your visions, they will help you procrastin­ate, they will cause drama that will distract you from your vision and actions, and they will put their limiting beliefs on you.

I once shared my vision with someone who told me that the idea was too big and no one would have the money to spend or donate to developing such a project. I recognized straight away that these were her limiting beliefs, and what she was really saying was that she didn’t have the money and she didn’t know how to make it happen. I didn’t stop spending time with her but I realised that she wasn’t the right person to help me achieve my vision.

It may be time you reassessed your crowd. But how do you do this when you have family and friends who rely on you?

• Learn to put up boundaries on your time. Successful people know their plan and are committed to it. Instead of spending an hour with a particular friend or group, shorten it to half an hour.

• Remove drama queens from your life, or at least limit how much time you spend with them.

• Begin to limit the time spent with the wrong crowd people and start to set time aside to spend time with the right crowd people.

I spend quite a bit of my time gleaning from many successful people. If you look on my bookshelf or check out my audible and kindle account you will see books and podcasts from people who openly share their success strategies on topics such as relationsh­ips, parenting, life, success, money, health, you will even find the Bible. Why? I want to be successful in all areas of my life, body, mind, spirit, and relationsh­ips.

People say there is no manual for life, however, successful people are definitely spending time sharing their knowledge to help you live your life. Why not hang out with them and learn a thing or two?

JOHN WOODEN, a record-winning basketball coach and player has been quoted saying - Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is what others say you are.

Once I began to control my crowd I began to experience significan­tly more success in so many areas of my life. When I began seeking out people who had positive mindsets, who were achieving things that I wanted to achieve, who treated people well, and who encouraged, supported, and uplifted me, my whole world changed.

I went from being angry, shy, and limited in my ability to earn a good income, to be more confident and successful in my business, finances, health, and relationsh­ips. I am able to do more than I can ever dream and the opportunit­ies for my life are endless, simply by controllin­g the crowd around me.

Is it time you reconsider­ed the crowd you are hanging out with?

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