Push­ing the re­set but­ton

In a cri­sis, if you wake up breath­ing then you can move for­ward

Life & Style Weekend - - MIND - with Nick Ben­nett

NEARLY ev­ery per­son in Queens­land and north­ern New South Wales has been di­rectly af­fected by the weather we’ve ex­pe­ri­enced over the past few weeks. As a re­sult, along with the phys­i­cal and fi­nan­cial toll, there has been an ex­treme emo­tional toll on com­mu­ni­ties, busi­nesses, fam­i­lies and peo­ple fol­low­ing the dev­as­ta­tion.

Peo­ple may also feel dis­placed within them­selves.

The shock of the changes that have been wrought upon our homes, prop­er­ties, towns and re­gional cen­tres has forced peo­ple out of their “nor­mal” and left us with sen­sa­tions I would liken to post trau­matic stress.

You can hear it in con­ver­sa­tions and see it in peo­ple’s faces. Even those who were spared the chal­lenges brought by days with­out power, phones, in­for­ma­tion or ac­cess to clean wa­ter and food, speak of the guilt that they feel by not shar­ing the or­deal.

How do we cope with such an ex­pe­ri­ence? How do we get up and push the re­set but­ton to get us into a pos­i­tive, con­struc­tive frame of mind when ev­ery­thing seems so chal­leng­ing?

It may ap­pear sim­plis­tic of me, but what I have learnt from fac­ing many crises – some of my own mak­ing and oth­ers that have been forced upon me – is that if I wake up breath­ing I have an op­por­tu­nity to move for­ward. I do the things that I have con­trol over and, ini­tially, only those things.

I ig­nore the “noise” made by overly opin­ion­ated com­men­ta­tors re­moved from the sit­u­a­tion and deal with tak­ing one step at a time un­til there is suf­fi­cient dis­tance be­tween my­self and the event – ei­ther in time or travel – where I get the op­por­tu­nity to look a lit­tle fur­ther ahead.

The other thing I do is to reach out. Not some­thing men are gen­er­ally known for. When you reach out to oth­ers you have choices. Ei­ther to of­fer help, ask for help or just to have a chat about what’s hap­pen­ing.

Here in our town peo­ple re­alised there were oth­ers far worse off than them­selves. They es­tab­lished do­na­tion and dis­tri­bu­tion hubs to get ba­sic hy­giene items, wa­ter and food to Air­lie and Bowen to sup­port the ef­forts be­ing made by the army and other

We get fooled by our mod­ern world and the im­me­di­ate grat­i­fi­ca­tion of our needs and de­sires.

or­gan­i­sa­tions. When we went into a hub to drop off goods, what was truly heart-warm­ing was the num­ber of school kids mak­ing packs. Re­mem­ber, these kids had gone through the same event.

The other thing I have learnt is pa­tience. We get fooled by our mod­ern world and the im­me­di­ate grat­i­fi­ca­tion of our needs and de­sires. Na­ture re­ally doesn’t heed that. We wish you and your fam­i­lies a speedy re­cov­ery and an op­por­tu­nity to cel­e­brate this Easter.

Nick Ben­nett is a fa­cil­i­ta­tor, per­for­mance coach and part­ner of Minds Aligned: www.mind­saligned.com.au


Reach­ing out to oth­ers in times of trou­ble pro­vides choices.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from Australia

© PressReader. All rights reserved.