SECRETS TO INNER PEACE
SOMETIMES LIFE DEALS OUT A FEW CURVEBALLS. HERE’S HOW TO BUILD RESILIENCE SO YOU CAN COPE WITH WHATEVER IT THROWS AT YOU
As we go through life we encounter many obstacles and transitions that can cause inner turmoil and, externally, the experience of failure. These come in many forms: grief, social isolation, job or relationship changes, even “positive” experiences like the growing up and leaving of a child or a loved one.
When these things happen we often feel like it is the end of the world and it takes a lot of effort not to go to pieces. We may wish we were tougher, had a harder shell, or had an inner equanimity to changes and challenges that allows us to function at a high level regardless of our life’s events.
That’s where resilience building comes in.
When we learn to cope with stress in a constructive way, we gain a confidence and satisfaction with life that is hard to replicate.
On the other hand, when stress is consistent, we can find ourselves dealing with other issues like anxiety, depression, insomnia and a weakened immune system. Here’s how to build resilience:
It doesn’t matter how independent you think you are, the truth is we all need support groups and constructive social situations to help us manage our stressful lives. When we have good friends and supportive social circles to lean on, we can share our worries, lighten our emotional burden or even get direct help to deal with what is bothering us. Don’t try and go it alone.
There are often two sides to a situation — the positive and the negative — and it’s up to us to decide which one of these we will see. It’s easy to get down on ourselves if we are always seeing the bad side of events or people. Why not do the opposite? Look for the light or the good in things that happen. Reframe old memories so that you understand the hidden lesson and not just the pain associated with them. You will feel lighter and better.
With our on-the-go lifestyles and smartphones, it can seem like a bad joke when someone tells you to relax. However, there are certain things you can do to make it easier to switch off. One of these is to learn the art of meditation. A simple mindfulness
“WE ALL NEED SUPPORT GROUPS AND CONSTRUCTIVE SOCIAL SITUATIONS TO HELP US MANAGE STRESSFUL LIVES.”
practice has been shown to lower blood pressure and reduce stress hormones in the body. You don’t have to sit on a cushion and contemplate your navel either. More active exercises such as yoga and tai chi have also been shown to have a beneficial effect.
We have spoken about seeing the bright side of things. Now is the opposite side of that coin. Restrict your indulgence in the negative. By negative we mean negative events, negative music, negative people … the list is endless. When we consciously cut these things out we find our general emotional state improving automatically, which can then lead to better, brighter moods and avenues of expression.