RELATIONSHIPS AND TEAM SPORT
THE BENEFITS OF GETTING IN TO FITNESS AND DEVELOPING SOCIAL SKILLS
How much does a sport like netball and being a part of any team sport enhance your relationship skills?
At the time, I didn’t realise how much playing team sport as a child has contributed to strengthening my social skills to build healthy relationships.
Aside from developing co-ordination (not sure if I ever mastered this one), and benefiting from fitness, here’s what I learnt to do:
- Reflect on my performance when I contributed to losing.
- Deal with “ball hogs”, bullies, witness on field tantrums and hear swearing from others when they didn’t win. - Listen and respect my elders such as the coach, referee and sports officials (even when we didn’t agree). - Enjoy camaraderie to build each other up “when the chips are down”.
- Positively bond with other females as they’re particularly important to women.
- Talk out problems with my team mates either about the game or otherwise.
- Build tenacity and resilience to grind through gruelling training sessions.
- Not rely on a screen for entertainment. - Enjoy confidence when we achieved as a team.
- Play by the rules, learn consequences and personal boundaries.
- Experience the joy of sharing the adventure of visiting new places with others.
- Notice a consistent correlation in academic success when I applied the same principles of hard work and dedication.
- Appreciate “muscle memory” when I’ve continued to exercise as an adult.
- Take advantage of being inspired by healthy and fit lifestyle mentors.
How does this translate to adult relationships? I now have:
- A greater ability to work, live and tolerate people with different values, backgrounds and idiosyncrasies.
- Insight my harsh words cannot be rewound and the need to own my poor selfish behaviour
- An understanding that what motivates me, may not inspire someone else.
- The joy of seeking to provide care and love in a way that is different to mine.
- A greater chance of successfully placating someone else facing loss, disappointed or distressed.
- No problem seeking wisdom from mentors who consistently enjoy a great marriage or relationships.
- The benefit of fulfilment of self-sacrifice to support someone else.
- The knowledge that exercise is the best stress, depression and anxiety medication that contributes to being the best wife, mother and counsellor I can be.