Many shades at play
WHEN YOU SEE PLUM, ORCHID AND FUCHSIA BUT HE JUST SEES PURPLE, THERE’S A SCIENTIFIC REASON
Today, I’m supporting blokes for when she sees “puce” and you see brown. She sees “steel slate” and you see grey. We are in the middle of Audacious August with my attempt at stepping into the boots of the great Australian male in a relationship with his sheila.
Feel free to peruse my blog for the recent weeks’ articles on the myriad challenges faced by men as noted in relationship counselling or ones you’ve emailed in.
This topic represents a metaphor for malefemale relationships in that we really do see through different lenses in many instances.
Realising this masculine versus feminine approach could be one major step forward to your more intimate relationship.
Thanks to Jason who emailed in his frustration on being questioned by his woman about interior decorating colour options. He noted, “We only see in primary colours”, and he’s quite right. Men do see multiple distinct colours only and females see multiple shades. It’s hardwired.
As you could imagine, women become quite despondent and rejected when we receive little input to our dilemma of the mango tango curtains versus the coral ones.
Thanks to Dr Caroline Leaf in her book, He Said She Said, who provides greater insight around the cause of this in the biology around our vision.
“The X-chromosome provides the coneshaped cells that handle colour. Women have two X-chromosomes and men have one, so women have more cells that allow them to see subtle changes in shades of colour. Females also have more P-cells – special cells in the retina that help the brain interpret texture and colour.
These P-cells allow women to be more detail-oriented than men. Males, on the other hand, have more M-cells, other specialised cells in the retina that help the brain analyse motion, action and direction. M-cells help men see how things move and work.”
This would explain why I’ve managed to reverse into my husband’s car in our driveway let’s just say more than once in daylight.
It also makes sense of why he couldn’t care less about what shade of red he went when he found out. Surely the fact that men see better than women in bright light and women see more details in short distances in the dark has something to do with it?
Coming up next week is our need to understand each other’s male and female lenses. I’ll be interviewing someone special next week who gained plenty of insight through experiencing this in rather a public way.
Hear more in my new podcast, “Is this love?”. Tune in each Friday morning to my cohost of the radio Salt106.5 breakfast show and head to my website to download my “Spouse it up” handy relationship tips. In the meantime, keep contributing your challenges on this topic to [email protected]confidantecounselling.com.
Joanne Wilson is a neuropsychotherapist, relationship specialist, workshop facilitator and guest speaker. Contact www.theconfidantecounselling.com.
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