A healer's dilemma

Like a Fer­rari, your emo­tions are packed with power – use them wisely.

Living Now - - Editorial - by Raym Richards

A stone in her shoe re­veals the deep seated rea­son for Raym’s client’s stag­na­tion as a healer.

ARE YOU IN CON­TROL OF YOUR EMO­TIONS?

A red For­mula 1 Fer­rari ex­plodes from the grid, wheels squeal, burn­ing rub­ber to the track. One hun­dred miles an hour in a few sec­onds. The driver’s head is forced back so hard he feels his face warp­ing. He changes gears, ac­cel­er­a­tion shoves him back again, squeez­ing into his chest and ribcage.

He shoots that Fer­rari around the track, and from the stands, it looks ef­fort­less.

Our emo­tions can be the same. The ques­tion is: Are we in con­trol?

Do you ever feel like your emo­tions are like that Fer­rari? But in­stead of help­ing you be smoothly in con­trol and rip around the track with pre­ci­sion, your emo­tions are roar­ing at you from all an­gles and driv­ing you, where they want to go… just hope­fully not into the wall?

WHO’S DRIV­ING?

You might be­come an­gry, then that burst of anger, that emo­tion, de­cides it will con­trol you, drive you. How? It may make you scream, yell at a loved one, or toss your bro­ken ket­tle out onto the street – we’ve all done that one, right? (Maybe that’s just me).

One day life gets you down and you be­come sad or de­pressed. Your emo­tions drive you again and make you sit on your couch while it’s bril­liant and sunny out­side. Then, they force you to eat bowls of ice cream (that’s right, force you, no one wants to eat globs of caramel-salted full-cream heaven), blocks of choco­late, and maybe to drink too much of your favourite beer or wine, leav­ing your head pound­ing in the morn­ing.

An­other time you get anx­ious or wor­ried, and that drives you to lose sleep, toss and turn all night, feel sick through­out the day, and worst of all, it may even add a stress line on your fore­head. Your emo­tions, like the Fer­rari, with all its horse­power and thrust can add tremen­dous joy and ex­cite­ment to our lives – or tremen­dous heartache.

So make sure you’re driv­ing your emo­tions, us­ing them to serve you.

BE­ING AWARE OF YOUR EMO­TIONS

One way we can do this is by sim­ply be­ing aware of your emo­tions when you feel them. Well, what does that do? The driver in that red Fer­rari is fully aware of all the power he posses in that ve­hi­cle, and he knows when the g-forces push just how to con­trol it and use it. Like­wise, if you be­come aware of your cur­rent emo­tion, you are not con­trolled by it any­more, but you can use it.

Say some­thing sim­ple hap­pens, like you can’t find your keys and you be­come an­gry. The first thing you need to do

is be aware of that heat boil­ing within. Sim­ply do­ing that takes most of the heat away, then you can un­der­stand why you’re an­gry; you can’t find the keys. Then, you can sim­ply look for them.

Of course, that works with much big­ger is­sues as well.

If your anger has flared and wants to drive to you to at­tack some­one with a fist to the chin, first be aware you’re feel­ing anger, don’t let it con­trol you. Next, ask why you’re an­gry, and get the an­swer. When you have the an­swer, look at what out­come you want; say, re­solve the dis­pute. Ask your­self, how you will do that. Then, sim­ply re­solve the dis­pute. Take a look: • Aware­ness of emo­tion. • Why you’re feel­ing it. • What out­come do you want? • Go for that out­come. The un­con­trolled anger will only cause harm to your life. So first be aware of it, see what it’s telling you, what you need to ac­com­plish, then sim­ply do it.

All your emo­tions are telling you some­thing, some ac­tion or de­ci­sion you need to make.

Your pos­i­tive emo­tions let you know what you’re do­ing right and what you need to do more of. Even neg­a­tive emo­tions can be pos­i­tive if you use them wisely and don’t let them lead you, bash­ing you around the race­track of life.

BE­COME A MAS­TER OF POWER

You might say it’s hard to con­trol your emo­tions with all the pres­sure we face, and that’s true. But is it easy to be­come a For­mula 1 driver? All ben­e­fi­cial things take prac­tice. Prac­tise be­ing aware of your emo­tions when they spring up and us­ing them to your ad­van­tage. If you don’t, you may get un­wanted health prob­lems, re­la­tion­ships that aren’t as ful­fill­ing or joy­ous as they could be, and your per­sonal growth and hap­pi­ness won’t reach the level you oth­er­wise de­serve.

If you prac­tise us­ing your emo­tions, you can be­come a mas­ter of all that power, like that Fer­rari driver. De­spite all the in­ter­nal pres­sures go­ing on around you, the g-forces of life hit­ting you from all an­gles, the blur of the pass­ing crowd, the noise of the engine, you will fly around the track of life lov­ing it, and help­ing oth­ers do the same.

And oth­ers will sit in the stands, heads turn­ing, gaz­ing at you fly­ing around that track in to­tal con­trol, lead­ing the pack like a mas­ter driver in a red Fer­rari. ■

All your emo­tions are telling you some­thing, some ac­tion or de­ci­sion you need to make.

Clint Lowe, a writer of fic­tion and self-help from Vic­to­ria, Aus­tralia. He has a YA novel on the way, and a self-help book in the form of story.

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