Self-sabotage stalls suc­cess

Prac­ti­cal steps for you to over­come self­s­ab­o­tag­ing be­hav­iour and thoughts, and to be­come more con­fi­dent and ca­pa­ble as you strive for your goals.

Living Now - - Editorial - by Ali­son J Beaty

Prac­ti­cal steps for you to over­come self­s­ab­o­tag­ing be­hav­iour and thoughts.


Do you pro­cras­ti­nate? Over-think things? Lack self-be­lief? Do you find all the ex­cuses un­der the sun to stay right where you are, rather than push your­self to where you re­ally want to be?

If you an­swered yes to any, or all, of the above, then like many of us, you self­s­ab­o­tage.

Self-sab­o­tag­ing is a process that pro­tects us from change, even when change is ex­actly what we want or need. It’s our sub­con­scious step­ping in and mak­ing sure we stay right where we are, so that our sta­tus-quo re­mains in bal­ance, and we don’t put our­selves in the way of what the sub­con­scious sees as po­ten­tial dan­ger – the un­known out­come of the change we de­sire.

The trick is to chal­lenge the be­liefs that hold us in place, calm the anx­i­ety or fear we feel, and ig­nore the noisy, neg­a­tive voice in our heads telling us we can­not do/have/be, what it is we want.


When it comes to the work­ings of the mind, what sounds sim­ple on pa­per can be a lit­tle more chal­leng­ing in real life. But there are prac­ti­cal steps you can take to over­come self-sab­o­tag­ing be­hav­iour and thoughts, and be­come more con­fi­dent and ca­pa­ble as you strive for your goals.

Mind­ful med­i­ta­tion

To man­age anx­i­ety, learn med­i­ta­tion tech­niques and prac­tise them ev­ery day. Med­i­tat­ing brings you right into the here and now, and away from the con­stant ‘what if…’ sce­nar­ios the mind of­ten keeps re­play­ing. Utilise the mind­ful tech­niques of liv­ing in the present when you feel anx­i­ety ris­ing: a few slow deep breaths and notic­ing what you can see, hear, feel, taste and smell will help you stay grounded.

Hyp­notic re­sults

Hyp­no­sis is also a won­der­ful way to over­come what’s hold­ing you back. Some peo­ple are ner­vous about hyp­no­sis, or be­lieve they can’t be put into a hyp­notic trance. The truth is any­one can de­cide not to do some­thing, in­clud­ing go into trance, but we all ac­tu­ally go into trance sev­eral times a day. We just don’t re­alise it. It’s a nor­mal part of our daily life, noth­ing strange or mys­ti­cal; ex­cept what it al­lows is for us to ac­cess our sub­con­scious mind, by­pass­ing our judg­men­tal con­scious mind, and thus lay the foun­da­tions for the changes we de­sire.

Change your mind

Your mind cre­ates the world you live in, and it can be im­proved sim­ply by chang­ing your mind. Re­mem­ber that be­liefs are not nec­es­sar­ily true, and can be chal­lenged and changed as we learn more. Think of some­thing you used to be­lieve in as a child that you no longer be­lieve. An ex­am­ple that al­ways makes me smile is of my daugh­ter, who once be­lieved babysit­ters were peo­ple who went around sit­ting on ba­bies!

And that neg­a­tive voice in your head? Chal­lenge what it says. Look around and find ex­am­ples of peo­ple who have done ex­actly what you want to do, and suc­ceeded.

Fi­nally, re­mind your­self that change starts with the first step, and then take it! Good luck! n Con­nect with other read­ers & com­ment on this ar­ti­cle at www.liv­ing­ Ali­son be­gan her work­ing life as a reg­is­tered psy­chi­atric nurse be­fore mov­ing into hyp­no­sis, life coach­ing, reiki heal­ing and writ­ing. She lives in West End, Brisbane, and works with clients from around the globe.

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