PURPOSE Unplugging THE GETAWAY Havana
The average iphone user unlocks the device 80 times a day. In 2016, according to one report, Android users clicked, swiped or tapped a screen 2600-plus times a day. (Touch your partner that often?) In Cuba, Internet access is scarce. But trust me: in Havana you don’t need Instagram. With the music, the cocktails and the steamy heat, this city radiates sexiness. Nate and I spent our mornings in bed, our afternoons sipping mojitos in leafy courtyards and our evenings dancing until we were soaked in sweat. My lingering mental gif: zipping around in the backseat of a classic car, my hair blowing in the warm wind and my husband looking at me with a big smile. Didn't need a photo.
THE TAKEAWAY Focused connection. Put down the phone to solidify your relationship: “Technoference” is a term from a study that found that seven in 10 people see phones as interrupting or getting in the way of interactions with their mate (like texting while talking). When it happens often, relationship satisfaction drops. Without your phone, you relax into your partner’s company and reconnect, says therapist Rachel Sussman. You’ll be reminded of the early days, when you two were young, carefree and getting to know each other.
DO IT YOURSELF Go camping far from cellphone reach. Seek out a digital detox program or a retreat like Gwinganna – in the Gold Coast hinterland – which doesn’t allow mobile phone use in public areas. You disconnect to reconnect.
“That wild side of you may spice things up and help her see you in a different light”