The three Gs of aged care

Emotions can run high when families face frailty issues. You are likely to run into what I call “The three Gs of aged care” – grief, guilt and greed. These are natural emotions. While not necessarily negative, they have the potential to be destructive and create conflict, so be aware of how they affect decisions and drive behaviours.

GRIEF – changes in the person or the ongoing relationship can feel like a loss. Decision-making can be less effective when experiencing grief, so having a plan to fall back on can fill the gap.

GUILT – many people feel guilty when sending a spouse or parent to live in residential care instead of providing the care themselves, even if this is the best option.

GREED – families and money are often not a good mix, and the lure of an impending inheritance can entice people to act in their own interests. LB

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