IT’S NOT COMPULSORY TO LIKE THE IN-LAWS, SAYS NENE

Q

I have been married for nearly three years and neither my mother-in-law nor my sister-in-law like me. I do like to speak my mind but think they have misinterpreted my forthrightness as rudeness. My husband says not to worry about it but it really bothers me.

ANNETTE, VIA EMAIL. A

If the strained relations bother you, then do something about it. You presume your forthrightness has been interpreted as rudeness. Maybe mixed messages? Although it is not mandatory to get on with your in-laws you could make an effort and invite them over. Tell them you are disappointed you haven’t clicked and ask if there is a reason. Depending on the outcome either your mother-n-law and sister-in-law will make you feel a welcome member of the family or they will remain distant. If the latter, take your husband’s advice.

Q

My partner and I rarely argue about anything major but lately we have been bickering a lot about – of all things – the remote control to the television. It seems childish but how do we keep things fair?

MEL, VIA EMAIL. A

Your marriage needs some TLC. Do not ignore the telltale signs. You are fighting a lot – whether it’s over important matters is irrelevant. You are fighting. Storming out of the room in a fit of pique and guilt trips over the television remote – time for a reality check. You are irritating each other.

Q

I was recently diagnosed with diabetes and ever since then, my family have been driving me mad with watching what I eat. I understand how serious it is but their constant ‘suggestions’ are driving me mad. How do it get them off my back?

WAYNE, VIA EMAIL. A

You need to be patient. Your family is concerned about your health. I suggest they google Diabetes Australia and research the disease. Your family needs to understand you can lead an enjoyable life by learning about the condition and effectively managing it. The love and support of family is paramount. But what you don’t want is constant nagging about your eating habits.

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