COPING WITH final exam stress

HOW TO GUIDE YOUR KIDS DURING THIS HIGH-PRESSURE TIME

It’s normal for students to feel increased anxiety during final exam time, but when you add remote learning and restrictions to an already nerve-racking period, it’s important to check in on their wellbeing.

Macquarie University psychology professor, Viviana Wuthrich, shares ways to support your child during this stressful time.

WARNING SIGNS

“Excessive levels of stress are indicated by frequent tearfulness, avoiding schoolwork, difficulties sleeping or sleeping excessively, feeling nauseous, panicky or excessively irritable,” says Professor Wuthrich. “If you notice these symptoms, it is important to talk to your child to establish what help they might need.”

Seeking help sooner rather than later is another key factor.

Professor Wuthrich suggests contacting the school counsellor, downloading free resources from a range of services or getting counselling via telehealth or your GP.

HOW YOU CAN HELP

Communication and actively listening to your child’s needs can aid in lowering their stress.

“Adults often dismiss adolescent concerns and tell them things will be OK. While that is probably true in most instances, it is not what adolescents want to hear,” says Professor Wuthrich. “Instead, give them time to explain what they are worried about and rather than telling them how to solve the issue, ask: ‘What can I do to help? Can I go over some study material with you? Can I go for a walk with you to help you clear your head?’”

EASE THE PRESSURE

While we all want what’s best for our kids, be aware that the weight of your expectations can take their toll.

“It is very important that Year 12 is not seen as the

‘be all and end all’,” advises Professor Wuthrich. “Although it is an opportunity, there are other pathways for students to get to where they want to go.

“Be realistic about what you expect your child to achieve – especially this year, given the COVID-19 situation. Expecting your child to perform at their absolute best is a pretty tough expectation. Instead, focus on them getting through with good mental health.”

BE POSITIVE

Missed opportunities and cancellations due to COVID-19 restrictions can be disappointing, but try not to dwell on the negatives.

“It is unhelpful to focus on what is lost. It makes the situation worse than it needs to be,” says Professor Wuthrich. “Make time to do a minicelebration within the limits of COVID-19 restrictions.

“Look to the future and be grateful for the opportunities they have had in the past and will have in the future,” she adds. “Stress is reduced when students and parents are able to keep things in perspective. Being realistic about what can be achieved and balancing study with fun and relaxing things will help a lot.”