Prevention (Australia)

5-minute therapy

Psychother­apist Sarah Crosby is known for the Post-It note nuggets of wisdom that fill her Instagram page @TheMindGee­k. She shares some of her mental notes on everything from friendship­s to being yourself.

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@TheMindGee­k shares her Post-It notes of wisdom.

On uncertaint­y

It’s okay to feel uncertain. You’re growing your capacity

to accept discomfort.

On avoidance

Avoidance provides an illusion of calm, but it’s a temporary loan at best (and the interest

rate can be extortiona­te).

On being still

Stillness is often conflated with stagnation, but making regular time for yourself is deeply nourishing. In a world where you overwork, spread yourself thin, distract yourself with social media and fill every pocket of silence with noise, solitude is something you have to practice.

On inner circles

You deserve to surround yourself with individual­s who support your growth, rather than condemn it.

On friendship­s

It’s only by respecting your limits and your responsibi­lity as a friend that you provide the most effective support in the long run.

On relationsh­ips

No matter how loving a partner is, they will at some point fail to meet you when you need them, as they, like you, are only human. Occasional ruptures are the reality of life, and the hallmark of a healthy attachment is the ability to trust the undulating waves of the relationsh­ip.

On boundaries

The only people who are likely to make you feel that setting boundaries is in some way selfish

are the people who are benefiting from you having none.

On authentici­ty

Being yourself isn’t something you can suddenly ‘switch on’. You don’t wake up one morning and decide, “I might start being my full, authentic self today,” like it’s been hanging at the back of the wardrobe waiting for the right weather. It’s an ongoing process based on choices you make daily, so try not to worry if you don’t yet feel that you

have it all sorted out.

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5 Minute Therapy by Sarah Crosby, aka The Mind Geek (Random House, $29.99).
Extracted from 5 Minute Therapy by Sarah Crosby, aka The Mind Geek (Random House, $29.99).

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