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When it comes to anal sex, there's a com­mon be­lief that it can be messy, painful, or un­com­fort­able. But the re­al­ity is that, done prop­erly, anal sex can be an ex­tremely erotic and ex­cit­ing sex­ual ac­tiv­ity. If you're will­ing to try it, you might find it an un­ex­pect­edly fun ad­di­tion to your sex­ual reper­toire. Read on for the best tips on how to have en­joy­able first time anal sex. FIRST THINGS FIRST: DOES IT HURT?

This is one of the most com­mon con­cerns peo­ple have when it comes to try­ing anal pen­e­tra­tion, and the truth is, if you start too fast or too large, things could be un­com­fort­able. How­ever, it def­i­nitely doesn't have to hurt - and there are ways to make it plea­sur­able, not painful.


Be­fore get­ting into the swing of things, make sure that your body is re­laxed, and that you're not feel­ing tense or ner­vous. You could also try to help the mus­cles around your anus re­lax, too, by squeez­ing your butt mus­cles and holding for a few min­utes, and then re­leas­ing. Anal should be en­joy­able ex­pe­ri­ence so, be sure to re­lax breathe have a glass of wine to calm the nerves if need be.


To keep anal play com­fort­able for all part­ners, make sure that you're both com­fort­able com­mu­ni­cat­ing about what does and doesn't feel good. But the number one thing that will keep anal play fun and com­fort­able is us­ing a good qual­ity anal lu­bri­cant, as the anus doesn't pro­duce its own lu­bri­ca­tion in the same way the vagina does. For safe and plea­sur­able anal ad­ven­tures, we sug­gest the Love­honey Dis­cover Wa­ter-Based Anal Lu­bri­cant 100ml RRP $12.95


Be sure to let your part­ner know that the key here is to be gen­tle. Many peo­ple with penises think the best way to do it is to just dive in; how­ever, no mat­ter how much lube you use, your back­door is not a wa­ter slide. First, you'll want to ‘warm up' the anal area by get­ting it used to the sen­sa­tions with a finger or a small toy, such as the BA­SICS Slim­line Butt Plug.

You might want to start with a toy, the Love­honey Full Bloom Rose Sen­sual Glass Butt Plug RRP $39.95 is a great in­tro­duc­tion, al­low­ing your part­ner to gen­tly rub around the open­ing with the toy, then al­low him to ex­per­i­ment by ac­tu­ally in­sert­ing the toy (don't for­get the lube!). Then, and only then, should his pe­nis come into play. Start with just the tip and work your way up the shaft.


If you're con­cerned about clean­li­ness and safety (which, to be fair, should be all of us), use a con­dom! To min­imise the risk of in­fec­tion, be sure to clean your gen­i­tals be­fore and after en­gag­ing in anal sex. In ad­di­tion, do not switch be­tween the anus and the vagina dur­ing play, as this can lead to some rather un­pleas­ant in­fec­tions. Make sure that you pick a con­dom that's the cor­rect size for you or your part­ner to keep things safe and com­fort­able.


Three of the best po­si­tions for first-time anal sex in­clude:

· Girl-on-top: This po­si­tion al­lows the fe­male part­ner (or per­son be­ing pen­e­trated) to con­trol speed and depth of pen­e­tra­tion, which is ex­tremely im­por­tant, es­pe­cially for back­door new­bies.

· Doggy-style: This clas­sic al­lows the per­son do­ing the pen­e­trat­ing easy ac­cess to the anus, although things can get deep very quickly so do keep things con­trolled

· Spoon­ing is an­other great pick for bum-fun begin­ners. This gives you shared con­trol of your move­ments and adds an extra touch of in­ti­macy, which may help you re­lax as well.


Once you're done with anal sex, it's im­por­tant to think about the clean-up, which should be the most im­por­tant step in your af­ter­care rou­tine. Wash dirty tow­els, prop­erly dis­pose of used con­doms or den­tal dams, and thor­oughly wash your toy with the Love­honey Fresh Toy Cleaner 250ml (RRP $19.95). It can be es­pe­cially nice to re­as­sure your part­ner that you en­joyed the ex­pe­ri­ence with them and in­vite them to have a shower with you for a lit­tle extra TLC post-play.

So, anal doesn't have to be scary! If you're prepped, com­fort­able, and equipped with the right mind­set and the right tools, you might be sur­prised to find a world of plea­sure wait­ing for you.

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