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Pavlov's Bell, an ex­pose on bul­ly­ing-psy­cho­log­i­cal rape - by Bob Napier Years of abuse lead me to con­clude, “there are no sane le­gal means of deal­ing with bul­lies”, so I shifted. Tim Field's, (1996) bril­liant book, “Bully In­sight”, val­i­dates this, “It is the most dev­as­tat­ing, drain­ing, mis­un­der­stood, and ul­ti­mately fu­tile ex­pe­ri­ence imag­in­able." Pro­fes­sor Her­vey Cleck­ley, (1950), “The Mask of San­ity”, p7, “The in­ter­est was des­per­ate, (from fam­i­lies and as­so­ciates), who had strug­gled long and help­lessly with a ma­jor disas­ter for which they found not only no cure, no so­cial, med­i­cal, or le­gal fa­cil­ity for hand­ing, but also no full or frank recog­ni­tion that a re­al­ity so ob­vi­ously ex­isted”. Dr Robert Hare, (1993), “With­out Con­science” “It is not the psy­cho­log­i­cal re­port but the trail of de­struc­tion of other peo­ple's (lives), prop­erty, fi­nances, etc., as they travel through life that de­fines a psy­chopath”.

Ol­weus's (1993), per­ceived a de­fi­ciency with the def­i­ni­tion and de­fined, “bul­ly­ing as repet­i­tive, dam­ag­ing and with a power im­bal­ance”. A dic­tionary def­i­ni­tion of bul­ly­ing is, “the use of strength or power to hurt, in­tim­i­date or dom­i­nate oth­ers”. How­ever, the dic­tionary def­i­ni­tions of “strength and power” are not, “the abil­ity to hurt, in­tim­i­date or dom­i­nate oth­ers”, that is con­sis­tent with “an­ti­so­cial be­hav­iour dis­or­der”. Ol­weus's “power im­bal­ance” came from an “age or phys­i­cal size ad­van­tage”, with school yard bul­ly­ing.

A dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive of “power im­bal­ance” is:

1. Bruises, burns and bro­ken bones are com­mon terms for vis­i­ble ev­i­dence of “phys­i­cal trauma” to the body. There are “no com­pa­ra­ble terms” nor “vis­i­ble ev­i­dence” for psy­cho­log­i­cal trauma, and that is if the vic­tim un­der­stood that much.

2. Com­mu­ni­ca­tion and trust are the foun­da­tion of so­ci­ety, cre­at­ing pre­dictabil­ity, en­sur­ing we are on the same wave­length; we stop on red lights and go on green. The in­ten­tional par­a­sitic can­ni­bal­iza­tion of the vic­tim's dig­nity and trust is in­com­pre­hen­si­ble, di­ag­nosed as psy­chosis or delu­sions.

3. With­out firm intervention the young prac­tice to the point of mas­tery what re­wards them, in­clud­ing bul­ly­ing. What hope has the vic­tim got be­ing specif­i­cally il­lit­er­ate to this lan­guage of “toxic in­tel­li­gence”.

4. The le­gal in­dus­try demon­strates lit­tle un­der­stand­ing nor rem­edy for the vic­tim but is quick to pounce upon vic­tim's that re­act. Any re­ac­tion by the vic­tim is gen­er­ally twisted, em­bel­lished and re­ported to author­i­ties with a seam­less ex­per­tise fur­ther nour­ish­ing the par­a­sites ag­gran­dize­ment.

5. With re­spect to the grav­ity of what in fact is ac­tu­ally tak­ing place, the in­ten­tional psy­cho­log­i­cal de­struc­tion of the vic­tim”; the above dic­tionary def­i­ni­tion is an un­con­scionable fraud upon so­ci­ety. At best, it is an in­ven­tory of “tools”, a third-party ob­ser­va­tion of vis­i­ble, “phys­i­cal or ver­bal abuses” only.

Sum­maris­ing, so­ci­eties to­tal fail­ure of com­pre­hen­sion, the only tool there is, aware­ness, en­sures, “the vic­tim is pow­er­less and that is a power im­bal­ance, a vul­ner­a­bil­ity, which is ex­ploited by the bully”.

Dis­tress, wait­ing for the next as­sault, plus pre­vi­ous as­saults is com­pounded by the se­condary trauma cre­ated by so­ci­eties fail­ure to val­i­date that any­thing is in fact wrong, fur­ther in­val­i­dat­ing the vic­tim with psy­cho­log­i­cal iso­la­tion. This, in­tern by de­fault, not only fails to pre­vent fur­ther abuse or hold the preda­tor ac­count­able, it is also self-ful­fill­ing en­able­ment to the supremacy of the per­pe­tra­tor. A recipe for men­tal ex­haus­tion, try­ing to un­der­stand how this psy­cho­log­i­cal car­ni­vore can op­er­ate from an ethe­real 4th di­men­sion in the vic­tim's nor­mal 3-di­men­sional world. Game set and match goes to the par­a­site when the vic­tim quits their job, re­quires men­tal health sup­port, at­tempts sui­cide or takes mat­ters into their own hands.

I be­lieve: “Bul­ly­ing is the ad­dic­tion to "acts", val­i­dat­ing psy­cho­log­i­cal supremacy. All forms of abuse are merely tools”.

Both Cleck­ley and Hare listed 16 & 20 traits re­spec­tively for psy­chopaths. To-date there ap­pears to be no de­fin­i­tive cause. Cleck­ley was be­wil­dered that highly in­tel­li­gent peo­ple would per­pe­trate “In­ad­e­quately mo­ti­vated anti-so­cial acts”, for no fi­nan­cial or func­tional pur­pose, (ex­cept ego), hence the ear­lier term, “Moral Im­be­cil­ity”. Dale Carnegie p.130, listed Dewey J. & James W. on, “mans need for self-va­lid­ity”. In a vacuum of such val­i­da­tion ad­dicts are cre­ated of var­i­ous de­pen­den­cies, drugs and be­hav­iours, that cover that hole. There are par­al­lels with the traits of ad­dicts and psy­chopaths, loss of con­trol-in­ad­e­quate mo­ti­va­tion, ly­ing be­comes a skill of de­cep­tion at evad­ing ac­count­abil­ity and a source of grat­i­fi­ca­tion, a need for se­crecy, the fail­ure of con­science and em­pa­thy and a lack of out­side hob­bies and in­ter­ests as a re­sult of the brains ad­just­ment to short term grat­i­fi­ca­tion, i.e., the next fix of supremacy.

Com­plex stud­ies talk of “dopamine and the ac­cum­bens”, (in the brain), driv­ing ad­dic­tion. Sim­pler, “Pavlov's Dog”, the Rus­sian ex­per­i­ment where the dog was fed at the same time as a bell rang. Later the bell rang, and no food was sup­plied but the dog's brain was wired to ex­pec­ta­tion of re­ward and drooled. There the “Bell” was sym­bolic to con­di­tioned ex­pected re­ward. Here the sym­bolic “Bell” is the avail­abil­ity of an op­por­tu­nity, a Casino for a gam­bling ad­dict, an al­co­hol out­let, a pas­try shop, an easy tar­get per­son, (bully fod­der), de­pend­ing on where on the spec­trum of abuses the ad­dict is con­di­tioned. The dog drool­ing is con­sis­tent to the cig­a­rette ad­dict that on auto lights a cig­a­rette with­out con­science thought. This ex­plains the im­be­cilic loss of con­trol to “egogasms” for the bully. Tim Fields re­ferred to “in­com­pe­tence” re­lat­ing to ir­re­spon­si­ble acts. The photo of the map in the Smith Street Mall in Dar­win di­rects vis­i­tors 180 de­grees in the wrong di­rec­tion, “in­com­pe­tence”, or DINGA LINGA LING.

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