Nadia’s Stamp of Approval
IF there’s one thing I get asked all the time wherever I go, its ‘Why did you go on the TV show Married at First Sight?’
There are plenty of rumours that get around the tabloids post-show and I can almost confirm, unless I’ve written it, I’m pretty certain the rumours are false!
So let me set the record straight.
I never really thought I would be still single, and with no real prospects in my thirties. Does any girl these days?
The availability pool decreases, the emotional baggage gets heavier, physical age starts to show and you end up a lovely recycled artefact (perhaps that’s more in perception). The reality though, is that I’m really busy, and full of energy. I have zero chill time because I have no one to chill with. I spent most of my teenage years all the way to adulthood in relationships but it never progressed into marriage and kids. I was always a late bloomer; I took ages to get my first boyfriend, and have my first kiss.
I was enticed by opportunities for a career that led me through fashion, media and all things stimulating and fun. I was addicted to my job and my dreams. I loved growing up, pushing me to communicate better, learn from failure and my relationships never became a priority. I never dreamt of having children. Although I knew I wanted them I just thought it would happen when the time was right. Again, don’t we all ladies?
After dating my last boyfriend, I took a nice long four-year lull. The drama and damage this short but intense relationship brought to my life took its toll on me physically and emotionally.
I started to question my taste and choice in men, making me guarded, emotionally unavailable, and impossible to date.
You are hard to judge? You don’t seem keen? Why don’t you message back? You’re always so busy! Ugh. So much work.
I love a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman but I don’t like the feeling of being vulnerable to men as a single woman. I feel threatened, like I’m going to be put into a compromising situation and or hit on beyond my level of comfort. It doesn’t feel nice to have men push themselves on you or made feel guilty for not giving your time or self to them.
The easier alternative is to follow three simple rules. Avoid. Avoid and Avoid.
I avoid eye contact, I avoid flirting, I avoid dating, I avoid all those normal things we do to court one another.
So you ask, why did I go on the show? The answer is my best friend knew I was avoiding these things and said, ‘Nadia, you need to try this... you have nothing to lose. You are impulsive, you have made yourself too busy to meet someone, and plus, I’d enjoy watching you on this show.’
Things most definitely happen for a reason and this whole reality TV/ratings bonanza happened, resulting in Nadia being recognised everywhere I go.
To be honest, I don’t regret it. I learned more about myself and I shared it with the nation.
I listened to the experts and I gave things a fair go, and I’m glad things panned out the way they did. Life goes on.
Who knows what’s round the corner?