BERNIE BEATS THE BUL­LIES

Self-help au­thor believes heal­ing starts with our ‘in­ner child’

QT Magazine - - LOCAL PEOPLE - DARREN HALLESY [email protected]

SOME peo­ple say that in all of us is a book but very few of us ac­tu­ally get to the point of not only putting pen to pa­per but get­ting it printed.

That hasn’t stopped Bernie Gig­gins, the Kar­alee mother of three and grand­mother of six who has put all her years work­ing as an “in­ner child coach” onto pa­per so that oth­ers can learn to deal with the ef­fects of bulling, ne­glect and abuse.

She has writ­ten and self-pub­lished her book Heal One Piece at a Time, which has hit a chord with peo­ple all over the world, reach­ing the top of the best-seller list in three cat­e­gories.

“I’ve been writ­ing the book over many years, then around De­cem­ber last year thought I needed to fin­ish it,” Ms Gig­gins said.

“I had some anx­i­ety about what my fam­ily would think about it.

“You don’t un­der­stand how th­ese things (pub­lish­ing) work un­til you give a it a go but the re­ac­tion was fan­tas­tic, many have said to me that they re­alise now they weren’t go­ing mad.”

Ms Gig­gins suf­fered bul­ly­ing as a child and after it kept hap­pen­ing through­out her life she re­alised the events of her child­hood were shap­ing who she was as an adult and some­thing had to change.

She ex­plains how she believes the “in­ner child” is the per­son who lives in­side the adult we are to­day and that up­bring­ing shapes your des­tiny.

“If you can think of some­thing that hap­pened to you as a child you never got to say what you wanted to say,” Ms Gig­gins said.

“It might be a trauma or some­thing like get­ting lost in a shopping cen­tre, for ex­am­ple. You hold it in, like a force field. My story was bul­ly­ing and what­ever you had hap­pen to you as a child, you make a prom­ise that when you grow up your kids will never feel that way, yet of­ten you for­get about it.

“It’s locked in the body. So I help peo­ple to, in many ways, re­wire their brain to find where in the body that pain is and give it a voice.

“When I learnt, im­ple­mented and changed my own mind­set, all sorts of mir­a­cles be­gan hap­pen­ing.

“I had an amaz­ing re­la­tion­ship with my mother-in-law, as if our past was deleted. I re­ceived a re­dun­dancy from the cor­po­rate workplace where I was bul­lied and in­tim­i­dated for so many years. Friends and fam­ily were more lov­ing, pos­i­tive and sup­port­ive and I had a voice for the first time in too many years to men­tion.”

Ms Gig­gins has peo­ple con­tact­ing her from all over the coun­try now, even one per­son who flies from Dar­win reg­u­larly. She has one sim­ple piece of ad­vice any­one can use to start heal­ing them­selves.

“The big­gest change you can do to­mor­row is to start to keep a jour­nal,” she said.

“Write down how you feel and be hon­est about it. Give grat­i­tude to your­self and train your brain to do things dif­fer­ent. Sim­ply write down five things you are grate­ful for and five things you are proud of.”

Ms Gig­gins believes that feel­ing pos­i­tive about your­self is achiev­able, you just have to find the key.

With her book a big hit, it could lead to peo­ple all the world flock­ing to Ip­swich for her wis­dom.

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