A QUIET WORD Listen, care
POWER CAN BE IN LISTENING AND IN STAYING SILENT
Euroa Christian Fellowship
I admire my wife for her ability to sit in silence with her friends and not feel the need to fill the gap with often meaningless words.
Personally, I find it difficult to cope with silence, but I am sure I am not alone.
Russian cellist and conductor Matislav Rostrapovich was 16 when he met the great composer Dmitri Shostakovich, then teaching at the Moscow Conservatory.
‘‘He was very withdrawn, nervous and constantly shaking,’’ Rostrapovich said.
‘‘Even with his friends Shostakovich talked very little and sometimes did not talk at all. He just wanted to have the presence of a person he liked, sitting without a word in the same room.
‘‘Sometimes he would telephone me and ask me to come to his rooms quickly. So I would arrive and he would tell me to sit down and then be silent.
‘‘I would sit for half an hour, without a word. However, it was most relaxing, just sitting. Then he would get up and say, ‘Thank you, goodbye, Slavia’.
‘‘It was very special sitting like that with him. When I left I felt like I had been through some type of catharsis, the relaxation was purifying,’’ he said.
For years I believed if I was in a counselling situation I had to resolve issues with words of wisdom.
Later I discovered that simply being an attentive, caring, listening ear had a far more profound and healing effect than a multitude of words.
To be able to sit with friends in silence is an indication of true friendship where they are so comfortable with people that it is unnecessary to fill every void with words.
Even in our prayer lives we feel that we must articulate every little thought, as if God doesn’t know already.
The Bible even instructs us that there are times to be silent, to ‘‘Be still and know that I am God’’.
Thomas Carlyle said: ‘‘Silence is the element in which great things fashion themselves’’.
I think I might go out and heed my own advice and try and spend a bit more time listening and sitting in silence with God, and with friends to see if I can go for more than five minutes without opening my big mouth.
I’m sure appreciate it. they will all
TO BE ABLE TO SIT WITH FRIENDS IN SILENCE IS AN INDICATION OF TRUE FRIENDSHIP WHERE THEY ARE SO COMFORTABLE WITH PEOPLE THAT IT IS UNNECESSARY TO FILL EVERY VOID WITH WORDS.