THE IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY LIFE

Remember when you were young and single? When it didn’t matter what was in the fridge or that the washing wasn’t done?

Well, if you’re like me, those days are well and truly over — and gratefully so.

Now it’s all about keeping on top of the washing, keeping a fully stocked fridge, play dates and juggling work, all while trying to be a good friend, partner and person.

I’m not perfect, but with some organisation, communication and boundaries, I feel we can keep our heads together and win at family life.

To me nothing beats meal planning — set aside time on a Sunday (or whatever day suits you) to check your fridge and pantry to decide on what your family is going to eat for the week ahead. Create your shopping list and fill in the gaps from there. Not only will this save time and money, it also allows everyone to know what’s on the menu. Washing, on the other hand — where do I start? Invest in a ‘kick-ass’ washer and dryer. For my clients with large families, I create washing baskets for each family member, so the kids just pick up the basket and put away their own items.

One of the main things I see in so many homes is the annoying ‘dump zone’.

We all have them: it’s where the school bags are dumped, the sports bags, the shoes and the odds and ends.

Creating a system with hooks, doormats, even a message board, can really help manage this area.

Quality family time is paramount. It’s good for the soul, great for nurturing and understanding your children and a wonderful way for you, as the parent, to get grounded and enjoy what having a family is all about.

Even if it’s just sitting down together for one meal a week, it’s the rituals that create comfort and memories.

They say it takes a village to raise a child, so if you don’t have that village or support around you go find one, ask for help.

And if all else fails, may I recommend joining the circus.