Change is scary, right?

De­cid­ing to sep­a­rate from your part­ner can be an over­whelm­ing process, whether it is a joint de­ci­sion or some­thing ini­ti­ated by only one per­son in the re­la­tion­ship.

There are many fac­tors to be con­sid­ered as you step into this new phase of your life, in­clud­ing ar­range­ments for your chil­dren, di­vid­ing your fi­nances and prop­erty, and some­times even plan­ning for your safety.

A wise woman once told me that you can’t eat an ele­phant in one go, but if you take it bite by bite, it’s achiev­able.

The key is to arm your­self with knowl­edge ob­tained from qual­ity ad­vice so you are bet­ter in­formed about the best ap­proach to take, and to sur­round your­self with peo­ple who pro­vide you with pos­i­tive sup­port.

My tips to help break the prover­bial ele­phant down are:

It is im­por­tant to ob­tain le­gal ad­vice from a lawyer spe­cial­is­ing in fam­ily law sooner rather than later.

Know­ing the process early on will help to pro­tect you, your chil­dren and your fi­nan­cial po­si­tion, and hope­fully move you to­wards reach­ing an am­i­ca­ble res­o­lu­tion without the need to go down the Court path­way.

As you com­mence ne­go­ti­a­tions around the divi­sion of your prop­erty, en­sure that you con­tinue to en­gage with your ac­coun­tant and fi­nan­cial ad­vi­sor to re­main well in­formed about the av­enues avail­able to you and any fi­nan­cial im­pact with re­spect to the divi­sion of your prop­erty.

Most im­por­tantly, look af­ter your­self.

If you are hav­ing dif­fi­culty cop­ing, then don’t hes­i­tate to reach out for sup­port, whether that be from friends or fam­ily or from a pro­fes­sional sup­port net­work.

Your fam­ily lawyer will also be in a po­si­tion to point you in the right di­rec­tion for ser­vices and or­gan­i­sa­tions that are rel­e­vant to your cir­cum­stances.

While change is rarely com­fort­able, in life it is nec­es­sary.

Sepa­ra­tion is likely to be a chal­leng­ing stage of your life, but with qual­ity pro­fes­sional ad­vice and pos­i­tive sup­port net­works, you will be bet­ter equipped to move for­ward into this new phase of your life and your new be­gin­ning.

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