How i make it work... DANIELLE CORMACK
THE ACTOR, 45, HAS ALWAYS IMMERSED HERSELF IN HER ROLES. BUT NOW, AS A MUM TO TWO BOYS WITH A 14-YEAR AGE GAP, SHE’S LEARNT HOW TO LEAVE HER CHARACTERS ON SET AND HAVE A LAUGH INSTEAD
Having children is the most delightful thing in the world, but it can be the most confronting, frustrating and confusing thing as well. I wouldn’t change having my two children for anything. They’re the most important things in my life.
My elder son, Ethan , is an exceptional human being. He’s in his second year of university in New Zealand. My younger, Te Ahi Ka, is six years old and still very dependent on me. I have to be more hands-on – getting him to school and picking him up. I’ve never thought, “It would be easier if they were born closer together.” It is as it is.
When they spend time together at Christmas or on holidays, there is a real connection. There’s a natural tendency to protect each other. It’s great to have Ethan as a big brother; Ahi adores him. They get on well. At least in front of me…
It’s important for me to involve my children in my work so they understand what I do. I share with Ahi what I’m doing, but my explanations are ageappropriate. In my latest role, on Deep Water, I play a crime scene investigator who’s investigating the deaths of young men in Bondi. He understands that my job is role-play – that it’s not real.
It’s only recently that I’ve become cognisant of winding down when I come home. I would pay a lot of attention to research and warming up, but not actually warming down or separating my character from myself. I’m more conscious of what I do when I walk off set now. I have a moment to check in with myself and recalibrate.
There’s no secret to balancing work and life; it’s a massive juggling act and nothing is set in concrete. Some days it’s seamless and others it feels like it’s never going to work. The thing that keeps me sane is understanding that I’m not the only person who is a working parent.
I have moments where I’m incredibly proud of myself as a mother, but I also
have moments where I feel the complete opposite. I try not to dwell on either of those highs and lows too much and just remember to be present.
My sons and I laugh a lot together. It’s a great bonding moment when you can have a good belly laugh. It’s important to remember that you shouldn’t take life too seriously all the time. Remember, it’s an adventure! Deep Water