How i make it work... DANIELLE COR­MACK

THE AC­TOR, 45, HAS AL­WAYS IM­MERSED HER­SELF IN HER ROLES. BUT NOW, AS A MUM TO TWO BOYS WITH A 14-YEAR AGE GAP, SHE’S LEARNT HOW TO LEAVE HER CHAR­AC­TERS ON SET AND HAVE A LAUGH IN­STEAD

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Hav­ing chil­dren is the most de­light­ful thing in the world, but it can be the most con­fronting, frus­trat­ing and con­fus­ing thing as well. I wouldn’t change hav­ing my two chil­dren for any­thing. They’re the most im­por­tant things in my life.

My el­der son, Ethan [20], is an ex­cep­tional human be­ing. He’s in his sec­ond year of univer­sity in New Zealand. My younger, Te Ahi Ka, is six years old and still very de­pen­dent on me. I have to be more hands-on – get­ting him to school and pick­ing him up. I’ve never thought, “It would be eas­ier if they were born closer to­gether.” It is as it is.

When they spend time to­gether at Christ­mas or on hol­i­days, there is a real con­nec­tion. There’s a nat­u­ral ten­dency to protect each other. It’s great to have Ethan as a big brother; Ahi adores him. They get on well. At least in front of me…

It’s im­por­tant for me to in­volve my chil­dren in my work so they un­der­stand what I do. I share with Ahi what I’m do­ing, but my ex­pla­na­tions are ageap­pro­pri­ate. In my lat­est role, on Deep Wa­ter, I play a crime scene in­ves­ti­ga­tor who’s in­ves­ti­gat­ing the deaths of young men in Bondi. He un­der­stands that my job is role-play – that it’s not real.

It’s only re­cently that I’ve be­come cog­nisant of wind­ing down when I come home. I would pay a lot of at­ten­tion to re­search and warm­ing up, but not ac­tu­ally warm­ing down or sep­a­rat­ing my char­ac­ter from my­self. I’m more con­scious of what I do when I walk off set now. I have a mo­ment to check in with my­self and re­cal­i­brate.

There’s no se­cret to bal­anc­ing work and life; it’s a mas­sive jug­gling act and noth­ing is set in con­crete. Some days it’s seam­less and others it feels like it’s never go­ing to work. The thing that keeps me sane is un­der­stand­ing that I’m not the only per­son who is a work­ing par­ent.

I have mo­ments where I’m in­cred­i­bly proud of my­self as a mother, but I also

have mo­ments where I feel the com­plete op­po­site. I try not to dwell on ei­ther of those highs and lows too much and just re­mem­ber to be present.

My sons and I laugh a lot to­gether. It’s a great bond­ing mo­ment when you can have a good belly laugh. It’s im­por­tant to re­mem­ber that you shouldn’t take life too se­ri­ously all the time. Re­mem­ber, it’s an ad­ven­ture! Deep Wa­ter

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