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and her hus­band are both 37 and we al­ways knew she might strug­gle to con­ceive nat­u­rally be­cause she has en­dometrio­sis, yet the hard­est part has been the emo­tional roller-coaster of hope and dis­ap­point­ments.

I tend to let Mandy raise the sub­ject when she needs to. If she hasn’t rung for a week I know there’s prob­a­bly bad news and that she’ll share it when she’s ready. Ev­ery time she gets a pe­riod it’s like we’re griev­ing for a child.

In­fer­til­ity is such a for­eign idea to my gen­er­a­tion. I had four chil­dren, the first when I was 21. I’m lucky that Mandy re­searches ev­ery­thing and then passes all the in­for­ma­tion down to me. I oc­ca­sion­ally Google in­fer­til­ity, but there’s so much in­for­ma­tion out there it’s hard to know what’s ac­cu­rate. To be hon­est, I find some things too painful and pre­fer not to dwell on what might not be.

I know Mandy has filled in the pa­per­work for IVF, but isn’t ready to take that step. There’s al­ways the ques­tion of when to stop try­ing, but while my daugh­ter has hope, I will as well. I try to be re­al­is­tic and trust that what’s meant to be will be.

As a mother you want to shield your child from pain, but I’ve had to ac­cept there are some things in life you can’t con­trol.”

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