Sunday Mail - Body and Soul

HOW TO SURVIVE DUMP MONTH

Relationsh­ip expert and author Simone Milasas shares her top tips for staying coupled-up over Christmas

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Relationsh­ip: Are You Sure You Want One? by Simone Milasas and Brendon Watt

(Access Consciousn­ess Publishing, $25) is out now.

GET VULNERABLE

“Ask your partner questions and be clear about what you want. If it’s a relatively new relationsh­ip, talk about your priorities, asking: What would you like to do for Christmas? Is it important to you to spend time with your family, or do you want to hang out together?”

DITCH EXPECTATIO­NS

“If you have expectatio­ns of your partner over the festive season, you’re setting yourself up for disappoint­ment. Stop projecting and start being present. Getting rid of expectatio­ns is like working out at the gym: you can’t go for a day and come out buff, you have to work hard and train. When you notice yourself getting caught up in expectatio­ns, stop and recognise that.”

SHAKE THINGS UP

“We should all live every day like Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler in

50 First Dates, waking up each morning and starting anew (instead of staying mad with your partner for not taking the rubbish out yesterday). Take a moment to look at your partner and say, ‘I’m grateful to have you. How did I get so lucky?’”

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