Making gift giving more enjoyable
WHEN I tell people I hate buying presents for Christmas and birthdays I am often looked at as though I’m a horrible person.
It’s not that I hate giving people gifts, in fact I actually love giving people gifts.
I hate the idea that you have to buy something for someone just because it happens to be a certain date on the calendar.
You go hunting around the shops, searching for something they will like and often you end up spending more money than you should on something you hope they will like.
Expecting gifts on our birthday and at Christmas tends to ruin the specialness of receiving and giving a gift.
A present I received that really stuck out in my mind was a candle of all things.
My best friend bought it for me and there was nothing overly special about it.
It stuck out because it was completely out of the blue. I arrived home one day and there was a parcel. I had no idea what it was and when I opened it there was a card saying, “Just because I miss you and was thinking of you”.
For me, that was better than any expensive present I’ve ever been given, because of the sentiment behind it.
For the past three years my family and I have not exchanged gifts on our birthdays or at Christmas. Instead we give each other gifts at random times throughout the year.
If we come across something that we know a family member will love, or something with sentimental value, we buy it and give it to them and it has made gift giving really enjoyable.
We are doing it because we want to make the other person happy and show them we are thinking of them, rather than doing it just because it’s a certain date.
Don’t get me wrong, we still celebrate birthdays and Christmas but without the pressure of giving presents it has become about time together and simply enjoying that time, not presents.
‘‘ WE ARE DOING IT BECAUSE WE WANT TO MAKE THE OTHER PERSON HAPPY AND SHOW THEM WE ARE THINKING OF THEM, RATHER THAN DOING IT JUST BECAUSE IT’S A CERTAIN DATE.