Pre-Fight Checklist

These are the important questions to ask yourself before running in with steam coming out of your ears:

1

Why am I upset?

2

What is the real reason?

3

Am I just upset about this one specificthing, or am I bundling bigger feelings and using this new event to support or justify my anger?

4

Is this problem a bigger thing that we need to unpack?

5

Can I express my feelings with words without getting too heated, amplified, condescending or hurtful? 6 Can I attempt to come to a compromise that will make me feel better? Will an apology make a difference, or am I just looking to be right and lash out?

7

Will this matter to me a week from now?

8

Will this matter to me a month from now?

9

Will this matter to me a year from now?

10

What is the real size of this issue? What is comparable and not comparable?